hey guys so im new to this compared to many but i have a question
HOW DO YOU GUYS SLEEP AT NIGHT???
i mean the second i get into bed Its suddenly a battle not to masterbate and on top of that i have to sleep on my side now because when i sleep on my back well you can imagine what happens

TIPS ANYONE

Try listening to a shiur/music/radio in bed. To be honest, I have battles elsewhere so I don't have much experience with your question but I guess distracting yourself, davening for help, and remaining committed should do it.

Good luck!

thanks installed yea i don't think i will be getting much sleep this month but I will try your advice and listen to some music or a shir

i didnt sleep for two months. It was very scary. You can try htt5 . Good luck

With you in your struggle,

I've had times where I would read until 2 or 3 AM in order to stay out of bed until I couldn't keep my eyes open any more.

Of course it wreaked havoc with my mornings.

Here for you,

EBD

The desire will weaken once you are clean a few days - staying 100% away from lust really helps.

Then there are the normal things to help one sleep:
I got out of bed and did some exercises - pushups and situps and the like.
Cutting down on sugar really helps

I'm really with you in this trial.
I remember myself lying in the bed naked trying to prove myself that I can not to masturbate.
But the end was the same every time. I masturbated, cleaned myself up, got dressed and went to sleep.
I wish I could suggest you something, but I can't.
There are a lot of tools available in such a moments. I didn't have them. I just thought I'm bad person.
But you have. Try one or more of them. Pray, call somebody (who is in the same situation)....
God bless you.

Wow, a tough question and one that still eludes me.

First of all, thank you for your honesty.

Second, I have a strange idea that is in the literature about addiction and was suggested to me, eat chocolate when you want to act out. It has some chemical affect that works similarly (not a full proof option and certainly if you are getting into bed naked its going to be much more difficult.)

There is a line I've heard many times from my sponsor and others: God is soooo strong that even if I walk into a bar, pour a drink, lift it to my lips and tilt the glass, He can knock it out of my hands ---- but historically, He doesn't!

I need to put myself in my right mind at night. I check in with someone before I go to sleep and talk explicitly about my intentions. I walk the "tape" through to the end and imagine cleaning up that mess (yuch) I try some relaxation techniques (meditation) to get out of "that" zone. And before I go to sleep I daven to Hashem, in my own words, and ask Him to help me stay clean for one more night.

Hope some of this helps.

thank you guys for all ur help in this matter and tonight i will try some sugestions  SICK MAN this is great i get to eat choclate a heck of a lot now I have to start buying in bulk lol

;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Ah, so nice to see how alike we are...I too do EVERYTHING in moderation

Sick Man Getting Well wrote on 10 Jan 2011 15:22:


I was gonna suggest this idea too. (Although I think that we should try not to go into explicit details if we can get the help we need otherwise.)

A short, just a few minutes, phone call to another GYE'er can do wonders in realigning our mindset!


If you go to bed too late, try calling someone from another time zone.

yosef thats great but i hqve nowone to call how do i get a sponser

If you find someone on this forum that you like their style, you can ask them via PM if they have an anonymous Google Voice number....

Try to build a network of friends by posting in their threads too. As you build new relationships you will connect with guys from all over the world!

Agreed - as you get to know people here and become friends with them, you can ask them if you cna call the, and share your number (I'd recommend getting an anonymous google voice number, too).

First of all, sleeping in pajamas might be a good idea, if you don't already. Make sure to always keep your hands above your waist.

And try thinking in learning until you fall asleep. If that doesn't work for you, then find something else to think about.

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First of all, sleeping in pajamas might be a good idea, if you don't already.

deifinitely important!