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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:09 #16925

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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:11 #16929

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you tottally rock, uri! ;D
I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection
one day at a time
I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM!

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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:13 #16930

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wasnt too hard (sheepishly and modestly)
i mean,i have a bottom line now,no?
i also want to apologize if this girl is someone who uses the forum
i mightve been a bit rude
sry
-uri
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:13 #16931

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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:23 #16936

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i don't even know what to say, except WOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOWOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i'm so proud of you.
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 17:59 #16954

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Today's e-mail is dedicated to Uri's honor... And - dam - with what you just wrote Uri, I think tomorrow's might be TOO!! You are shaking the heavens on high, and you are shaking GYE (more than anyone else has since Dov joined!)
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 18:04 #16956

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Uri wrote on 09 Sep 2009 17:13:

wasnt too hard (sheepishly and modestly)
i mean,i have a bottom line now,no?
i also want to apologize if this girl is someone who uses the forum
i mightve been a bit rude
sry
-uri


Well done, Uri!

I doubt she uses this forum, and you don't need to apologize to the y"h personified.
Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'!
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 18:17 #16958

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I was feeling even better when i passed a few girls and i noticed something quite interesting.The "aura" that i sense by girls usually,that bright gleam,was not there!and these were decent looking girls,but i was not interested in the slightest.i guess its cause i was in such a positive mood maybe.


Mazal Tov Uri!!

You have just felt the essence of recovery. (And thank you for crystalizing it- it really helped me). Recovery means, for me, living in a way that I don't need the lust. This way of life is what I fight to maintain every day. I cannot and do not want to fight the lust itself. Feeling the recovery is really sweet, no? That is worth fighting for!
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 18:22 #16960

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Good job, Uri! I am very happy for you!
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 18:51 #16965

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In response to today's e-mail (#578) someone wrote me an e-mail as follows:

Editor,

Please keep my name and email address private because I don't have an aliases. I don't use your website due to workplace policies and don't have the Internet at home.

Please post anonymously from me the following to Uri's saga and to the advice from "Mom - 7 Up".

Rav Dessler writes in his Michtav Eliyahu the following. When people create goals for themselves, it is of utmost importance that they create two opposite goals. One goal is for aiming to reach further top. The other goal is for a RED LINE, not to reach below it. In other words one needs a "range"; not to fall below a certain rung and to try reaching a certain height. This will ensure, Rav Dessler explains, that just because a person didn't reach the height he set out for, it is a lot less likely that he will give up. Why? Because he DID accomplish another goal of his, namely by not falling beyond the lower goal of a red line!
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 19:44 #16982

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Uri, I read the e-mail today, and WOW! You are amazing!! Thank-you for inspiring everyone.... 
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 20:24 #16997

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uri, read your story on the email...congrats...

here is something that helped me avoid actual sexual encounters when i was your age (it didnt always help and it is pretty stupid when you get down to it, but it helped me most of the time):

gd gave eyesight to everyone (almost) he gave hearing and walking and talking to everyone (almost) so its hard to see those things as special gifts from gd (even though they are)...but he gave you two things which he did not give 90% of the world (1) charm and (2) good looks...if you want to use the gifts of sight, hearing, touching, etc to betray him, well, thats wrong, bro, but if you use these two special gifts that he gave you and almost no one else, youre just an [deleted explitive]...how many fugly people are there out there?? so so many! you could have easily been one too...instead, gd gave you good looks and charm, which he gave almost no one...its one thing to not use these gifts in a positive way but to pick up these two talents and specifically use these two talents to slap gd in the face is [deleted explitive]....

dont be a jerk....gd forbid you can get fat, gd forbid an accident or disfigurement and gd can take these items from you very easily...if you want to keep them and if you simply dont want to be a [deleted explitive] then dont use these two to rebel against your creator...

make any sense?
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 20:30 #17001

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Rage AT Machine wrote on 09 Sep 2009 20:24:

uri, read your story on the email...congrats...

here is something that helped me avoid actual sexual encounters when i was your age (it didnt always help and it is pretty stupid when you get down to it, but it helped me most of the time):

gd gave eyesight to everyone (almost) he gave hearing and walking and talking to everyone (almost) so its hard to see those things as special gifts from gd (even though they are)...but he gave you two things which he did not give 90% of the world (1) charm and (2) good looks...if you want to use the gifts of sight, hearing, touching, etc to betray him, well, thats wrong, bro, but if you use these two special gifts that he gave you and almost no one else, youre just an [deleted explitive]...how many fugly people are there out there?? so so many! you could have easily been one too...instead, gd gave you good looks and charm, which he gave almost no one...its one thing to not use these gifts in a positive way but to pick up these two talents and specifically use these two talents to slap gd in the face is [deleted explitive]....

dont be a jerk....gd forbid you can get fat, gd forbid an accident or disfigurement and gd can take these items from you very easily...if you want to keep them and if you simply dont want to be a [deleted explitive] then dont use these two to rebel against your creator...

make any sense?

no.
how do u know im not fat?how do u know im not all those other things u said?who said im charming?who said im good looking(besides for my mom)?
it could be im too flakey to understand what on earth you are talking about...
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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 20:38 #17010

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how do i know? hmmm, on July 18th you wrote, " so she was flirting a lot with me.i did all i could to present myself as a religious guy so dont mess but i regretted it all too often over the course of the shabbos.i could easily hook up with any of the 3" then again the story with the smiling girl on the bus....just a vibe i get actually...i may be wrong, ive been wrong many times before...

a flake? i had you pegged as more of a sap than a flake!

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Re: Where I'm at 09 Sep 2009 20:38 #17011

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Hey Uri, take it easy on RAM. He assumes that if a really good looking girl is trying to start up with you on the bus just like that, you must be good looking and not fat. I figured the same thing. And stop pking fun of him about the "flaky" thing. I'm sure he loves flakes like us by now (till he gets hit by the train coming down that tunnel where he saw the light this morning  ;D)
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