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Re: Eating and Intimacy 30 May 2010 15:16 #67543

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ZemirosShabbos wrote on 30 May 2010 05:41:

i was just thinking about this topic during krias hatorah this past shabbos (behaloscha). where it says that the bnei yisrael were complaining about the Man, how they missed the fish, cucumbers, onions, watermelons and more that they ate in mitzrayim, and then it says that Moshe say them crying, bocheh le'mishpechosav, and rashi explains that they were crying because of the arayos that became assur to them.


Baruch shekivanti!!!!!

To take it to the next step, i saw an interesting vort that said that what so frustrated Moshe Rabbeinu that he said "please kill me now", was that the people were not being honest with what was really bothering them.

They said that it was about food, when really it was about deeper desires that they were frustrated about.

Still difficult for me...seems like I like kigel because I like kigel because I like kigel .... ;D

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Re: Eating and Intimacy 03 Jun 2010 00:02 #68496

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5770 wrote on 29 May 2010 01:09:


My wife is a great cook.  She loves to feed me.

NO POINT trying to fix the masturbation/porn on it's own.  We need solutions for the whole enchilada (so to speak).


Sounds like you have a very loving wife and a close relationship. Is she using the food to shower you with love and nurturing?
Take it one step at a time. Dealing with food addiction and lust addiction all at once may be too overwhelming. Of course, Hashem does open miracles, so keep praying. Hatzlocha Raba!  Any idea what triggers your acting out? Maybe u feel unworthy for all of that love?
Dr. Twerski has an excellent book on Compulsive Overeating called The Thin You With-in You. I found it very helpful. Maybe we could start a group for guys with dual addiction (lust & overeating) Anybody interested? Meanwhile,I have to get off line to daven mincha and go home.
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