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For years I kept my wife trapped. On one hand she had to live with an addict -me, and on the other hand I prevented her from attending S-Anon meetings. This was really unfair. She wanted help and support (therapy alone did nothing). I was drunk on lust and then even when officially sober drunk on self-interest and self-preservation. I didn't give a hoot about her or what she needed. So she lived with me without the proper help and paid a big price. She is not the same girl that I married, and I feel bad about that. But we went to a group and we had an amazing experience there. The group has been meeting since 1989. I met a guy who said he can't believe that 21 years have gone by and that he is still sober. Another guy said he had been sober for 10 years. I heard their wives speak and could identify with my wifes pain in their stories. I could see and hear my wifes pain as she shared. They were all such really worked-out people...so full of love and support and and a wish to give. My wife got phone numbers and email addresses and I did too. The movement is a big powerful family network and cares for each other world-wide. I even met some who I did business with. He gave me a big smile and said: wow, its great to see you here. We hugged and kissed - what else can you say!
Yosef
