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Need help with my teenage son
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 13:19 #8931

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dear mom,my heart is with you.I do not know enough so I cannot advice on  specifics.but deep in your heart know there is greatness in your child.as painful as it is, never forsake him and never stop loving him.If he sees you look at him like he a piece of low garbage then it is over.there is a nekudah in his neshomah that is good,that doesn't want this stuff.never lose sight of this nekudah.He must see that you really love him and you respect him as well.and we are all davening that he pulls out of this.and when he does it will be partially because you never gave up on him and loved him always,loved him in the darkest hell and loved him when he rises out of it.If he ever comes to this site and reads this I would tell him that I was not in your shoes but we definitely were wearing the same brand name.I would say that most people here at one point got caught up in this stuff and there is a way out.that what was was.but he should go on the website and he will learn that it is normal to have these urges within you but you do not need to act out in a bad way.it could be channeled in the right way.but never be ashamed of the struggle itself.mom,you must know that the urge to these things are normal.

mom,your'e a great mom,and he's a great kid.He's just caught in a hurricane now.We are in the shelter.please help us bring you in and keep you safe
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 13:38 #8933

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Battleworn,
Yes, I know what you mean about R' Brezak. its not just the parenting advise, but his whole being, that teaches and influences. When I list to a shiur of his, I feel changed (for a little while, at least ).
He is a real anav (almost as much as R' Guard (private joke)), and it rubs off.

If all yiddishe totties would be involved in GUI, and all Yiddishe mommies in Project Kavey, the world would already have reached its tikun.

kutan

PS, Yechida, your words are very valuable. please PM the message to boysmom if you can, as I think she is not checking the site actively.
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 13:57 #8938

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Hey Kutan, no one comes CLOSE to me in Anava... :D
Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest.
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 14:32 #8941

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guardureyes wrote on 16 Jul 2009 13:57:

Hey Kutan, no one comes CLOSE to me in Anava... :D


;D

I'm working on catching up. Watch out!
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 18:27 #8956

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Reb Kutan

thank you for your suggestion but I don't think I'm able to.I do hope she visits back here some time soon.Of course she needs outside help with her son but there is something very powerful in many of our chevra that had similiar experiences that really care about her son and want to see him pull out of this and lead a happy and healthy life.
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Re: Need help with my teenage son 16 Jul 2009 18:38 #8958

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Yechida,
Thanks for the PM. Wasn't aware...

Yes you are right about this place being magical. As R' Brezak often says about the power of a tzibur:
1+1 = 3  !!!!

kutan
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