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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 16:03 #48854

bardichev	WHAT IS A MIXED GYM?? IS IT LIKE MIXED GIN? OR LIKE MIXED WITH JIM(BEAM)?
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 16:12 #48860

aryehtahor Current streak: 50 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 187 Karma: 1	Bardichev, you solved my problem! I just have to drink the mixed gin before going to the mixed gym! If I can't tell who is male or female anyway, then no problem
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 16:34 #48878

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aryehtahor wrote on 27 Jan 2010 15:58:

OK thanks for the responses. Obviously being in college at all right now is a very b'dieved situation. But I only have one more year and I am going to finish (IYH). I definitely see people's point that the gym is a major sakana.

Actually, I realize now that my initial question was really a halachic shayla that I should speak to my "local orthodox rabbi" about, since it really depends on a lot of factors and requires detailed knowledge of the situation. Although it may seem obvious to some, I think the question about what one should do in the actual reality of a person's life is subtle, even if you can open a sefer which says "don't go to a mixed gym". As I understand it, Halacha is not just following an instruction manual. It is based on cases. But definitely good to hear folk's take on it.

Yes...but how is a Rav to issue an accurate psak if he doesn't know that you've struggled with these issues? Indeed, Halacha is based on cases. The entire case.

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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 16:41 #48882

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NNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

Bad Idea, booze and lust make a very bad mix! No no No no No no No no

tBard, what kin of example are you trying to set, why not perscribe something usefull - like oxycodone, hydromorphone, or other such narchotic, pain killers! At least let him get the most of his workout, why are you trying to dehydrate him?

I'm serious here, can we get the poster who claims to be a rosh yeshiva, posek, rav to pasken for us in these areas. GUARD will have to verify his identity (they'll meet in the alleys of meah shearim, wearing oversized streimels that cover their faces :D . But seriosly, I know we have R Twersky, but we need a posek in areas of hisaklus etc..

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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:06 #48896

bardichev

I really don't want to be part of a halachic debate

So on the non-halachic side

Mussar is not my place cause I can't judge

So no shmooze from me

(And my personal opinion is ..personal)

But here is some food for thought

Nothing to do with a gym

Rome wasn't built in a day

We can't seriously work on our addiction
And..lose weight
We cannot fight in 2 arenas

Go 90 days with gue
And then get back to weight loss

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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:11 #48898

shemirateinayim Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 746 Karma: 0	:D Very funny :D Thanks for the laugh. Oh as far as the halachik side, Kanesher knows what he's talking about, and he's correoct abut the need to apply it in a more relevant manner, however Tomim does have a point, and thus we DO need a poseik in THESE areas, and halavai on a regular basis.
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:30 #48902

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	I like username24's line: psik reisha velo yomus! If I was in your situation, I would choose another way to lose weight that's probably safer. I'd go up to the top of a 100 floor building and jump off. (Then, maybe I'd consider going to the mixed gym to lose whatever's left).
	Webmaster of www.guardyoureyes.org - Maintaining Moral Purity in Today's World. We’re here on a quest ; it’s really all a test. Just do your best and G-d will do the rest. Last Edit: 27 Jan 2010 17:35 by .

Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:38 #48905

me3 Current streak: 97 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1229 Karma: 9	Well Guard, you could stand to lose a few pounds.......
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:45 #48908

aryehtahor Current streak: 50 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 187 Karma: 1	Guard, Great to see you "weigh in" to this topic. (pun intended)
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 17:50 #48911

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	aryehtahor wrote on 27 Jan 2010 17:45: Guard, Great to see you "weigh in" to this topic. (pun intended) Wow I cant believe you went there aryehtahor. Never thought I'd live to see the day. Just kidding thats actually funny. Corny. Yet funny.
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 19:45 #48930

aryehtahor Current streak: 50 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 187 Karma: 1	My Rebbe told me that once you start habitually making corny jokes, you are ready to be a father I don't think that applies to me though.
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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 19:48 #48931

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But make sure you walk up those 100 flight, let's see if you live to the top ;D

Hey GUARD can you send an email to the poster who says he's a posek.. Cmon there has to be someone on here who knows psak, and is willing to learn the sugyos on the topic. But for this one probably needs to know shas, there are too many variables, and it's very scattered throughout shas. Is there anyone with a connection to this site, that can do this?

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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 19:58 #48933

bardichev

shemiras

listen tzaddik

as an orthodox jew

i am compelled to ask mor embarrassing questions
to a posek

if

again if

this is a purely halachic question

go ahaed let our buddy aryeh ask the question

to whoever paskens his shailos

if it's amussar question

i dont give mussar

if its a gue question

hey im repeating myself

but emailing a rav will not have the same psak as the person

who is in tha situation asking the question

its like amailing a rav
are you allowwed to work on chol hamoed

depends who etc....

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Re: Mixed gyms 27 Jan 2010 20:36 #48938

the.guard Current streak: 805 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	Where can I ask halachic questions about intimate issues on-line anonymously?
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Re: Mixed gyms 28 Jan 2010 01:38 #48998

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GUARD you're awsome! We don't need more moderators, we need tour-guides. That means that a few of us 'regulars' (myself excluded) must actualy tour the ENTIRE site, numerous times, untill we know where everything is! And then we can direct people to all the wonderfull information that was already compiled by GUARD!!! Oh and we need somone who can use a search feature, DO I see the 'Dark Knight' raising his hand?