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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 20:23 #46700

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By double-digit do you mean a high IQ or a low one?
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 20:27 #46702

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Eye.nonymous wrote on 18 Jan 2010 20:23:

By double-digit do you mean a high IQ or a low one?


I guess everything's relative.  Maybe the husband's IQ is lower than his shoe size!  ;D
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 22:49 #46747

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This thread deserves a refuah sheleima wish! :D :D
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 22:51 #46748

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I am really not sure what the purpose of this thread is. Is it a knock of the other thread about mens wives?
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 22:52 #46749

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7Up wrote on 18 Jan 2010 22:49:

This thread deserves a refuah sheleima wish! :D :D


They didn't mean for you to take it personally. ;D
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 22:57 #46750

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I think it's just to have fun...the originator of this thread mentioned that he gained from that other thread.

But now I feel kinda less-than brilliant - what doesguardureyes wrote on 18 Jan 2010 19:01:

nechos darga venasiv itsa.


mean?
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 23:03 #46754

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silentbattle wrote on 18 Jan 2010 22:57:

I think it's just to have fun...the originator of this thread mentioned that he gained from that other thread.

But now I feel kinda less-than brilliant - what doesguardureyes wrote on 18 Jan 2010 19:01:

nechos darga venasiv itsa.


mean?


The approximate translation is: "Go down a level in marrying a woman."  In other words, don't marry a woman who is smarter than you (I know - all wives think they are ;D), of greater social status, etc.   
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 18 Jan 2010 23:14 #46761

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Ah. got it
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 19 Jan 2010 14:04 #46902

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Eizer K'negdo.

I think this means that Hashem makes sure the wife is an appropriate match for the husband.
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 16:41 #47507

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Rage ATM wrote on 18 Jan 2010 19:10:

guardureyes wrote on 18 Jan 2010 19:01:

chazal say, nechos darga venasiv itsa.


i always thought this referred to social status not intellect...


The way I understood it was, that part of our journey in this world is to learn "bitul" of our "sechel" to Hashem, and the best way to learn that, is to live with someone who thinks different than us, and perhaps not as intellectual and "deep", and yet we lower our own sechel, marry a woman of lesser depth, and learn how to build a relationship based on sharing and giving, and not based on the enjoyment I have in conversing with her and exchanging deep thoughts. That's why "nechos darga" is chazal's advice to us. It is good for us to marry someone lower than our intellectual level (which was probably the norm for most women in chazal's time, since they didn't have the same schooling as men).

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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 17:03 #47517

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guardureyes wrote on 21 Jan 2010 16:41:


P.S. Hon, if you're reading this, I'm not talking about YOU! 


Oh yes he was. I'd put him in his place if I were you.
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 17:32 #47520

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Rage ATM wrote on 21 Jan 2010 17:20:

Seriously, kedusha and guard, stop being such male chauvinistic  pigs...what happened to being equals? i think all men, no matter how smart or dumb think their wives no matter how smart or dumb, are not as "intellectual" or "deep"...its part of our chauvinistic psyche.



Mrs. Rage - get off your husband's computer right now, and go to the Spouses of Addicts forum! ;D
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 17:34 #47521

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Rage ATM wrote on 21 Jan 2010 17:20:

Seriously, kedusha and guard, stop being such male chauvinistic  pigs...


Rage,

For you to imply you're being serious is a bit of an oxymoron!
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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 17:41 #47524

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Rage ATM wrote on 21 Jan 2010 17:20:

Seriously, kedusha and guard, stop being such male chauvinistic  pigs...what happened to being equals? i think all men, no matter how smart or dumb think their wives no matter how smart or dumb, are not as "intellectual" or "deep"...its part of our chauvinistic psyche.


Just in case you were really being serious, spouses are supposed to respect one another, and have numerous Kesuba obligations, but where does it say that they should be equals?

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Re: Do guys with wives with a double digit IQ have less of a problem? 21 Jan 2010 18:18 #47530

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I think many wives (except for mine of course) are the intellectual equals of their husbands.
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