tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 29 Dec 2024 05:49:

That is moiradik. Feel free to reach out for chizuk

I wanted to m when I was in bed last night, but controlled myself and didn't.

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 30 Dec 2024 21:42:

Awesome

I was in a pretty stressful situation tonight, and wanted to m, but stayed strong.

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 31 Dec 2024 04:18:

Amazing!!
The self control to hold back puts you on a really high level!
The Ohr Hachaim Hakodosh writes that  someone who really wants to do something and holds back because of Hashem is zoche to a title from HKB"H himself that is most coveted: Eved Hashem.
Keep up the great work ! You are giving me major chizuk!
Thank You!!

This afternoon I found myself lusting pretty strongly for an m.
I pushed any ideas of giving in out of my head, and instead went to prepare and light the menorah.
Realized while I was lighting that I had forgotten about the urge and that it was gone.

You never cease to amaze me!
Keep it up!

But how can you stop if you feel that horny

I wish I could've controlled my self, because I'm completely out of hand, I really need help. Its starting to ruin my marriage

cheerfulswan42 wrote on 01 Jan 2025 05:04:

Feel free to reach out 

cheerfulswan42 wrote on 01 Jan 2025 05:04:


Have you reached out to HHM?

cheerfulswan42 wrote on 01 Jan 2025 05:04:

Welcome brother to the forums. Why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself by opening your own thread. There's a lot of help available. We would love to get to know you. Looking forward to hearing from you!

tzaddikvikam13 wrote on 01 Jan 2025 03:24:

Beautiful stuff! Throwing one's self into רוחניות is the best way to combat the YH! It might not always work the way we want it to, but when it does, there's no better feeling. Keep on trucking and inspiring!

cheerfulswan42 wrote on 01 Jan 2025 05:01:

I struggle with the same thing. Everyone tells me it gets easier with time. I am yet to experience it but many great people who were sure would never break free are free and helping others. Also not struggling nearly as much as they did.
One things that works not to really make it easier, but increases my motivation to stay strong is reading others stories of their victories.
But nothing more important then speaking with the greats here. Or maybe join the Vaad! 

if you decided in advance and ingrained in yourself that you will find another outlet when those feelings seem to overcome you, it is possible to distract yourself mid urge and use that other outlet.  It is not easy but it is possible.  once it works once or twice it become much easier because you now know you can do it.  of course it is always best to stop the thoughts (by moving on to other things) before the urges become strong