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Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 08 Nov 2023 21:10 #403464

chancy
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benblum wrote on 08 Nov 2023 05:02:

Thank you for your encouragement True_self. It is encouraging.

chancy I agree with you. However, I managed to remove webchaver (covenant eyes) way to easily each time I want to act out unfortunately. I have a filter called qustodio but I am managing it so it is basically not a fair fight. I cannot administer my own filter for obvious reasons. So I am looking for someone to take over the control of my filter. I should hurry in this search. It is night time and the yetser hara is trying to push me to just take a quick look. Not p...n but social media, not 3 hours, just 30 sec...The usual tricks for which I fall all the time...Guess what I am sending this message and I am going...TO SLEEP! more tomorrow morning...Thank you all!

Get any good filter like Meshimer, Tag, Techloq those are nt easy to temper with.
Install truple and add someone here as the recipient.
If we remove it, that person will get an alert right away. It worked wonders for me. Knowing that 'someone' is always watching........

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 09 Nov 2023 02:41 #403472

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I have webchaver (covenant eyes) + qustodio filter...The problem is that I am the administration especially of the filter. I am trying to close this loophole by assigning someone different. If the filter is in place and I cannot temper with it, it will already a good fence. Ultimately every filter has loopholes and for sure will not keep me sober. It can be a good first defensive line but I know that I need more than that. I need to change from the inside and this takes time and effort

I am sober today. I left the forum open all day. Sharing as I felt. Looking into the feedback I got. There is a lot to learn, a lot of work needed to grow...I am on my way. Tonight the plan is to stay sober and go to sleep quickly. Not spending too much time on screen

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 09 Nov 2023 15:29 #403481

benblum OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 66 Karma: 5	Got overwhelmed by lust yesterday night. I entertained the thought instead of running away to sleep. Result: a few ours of social media and p..n. Not fully acted out but still. Obviously today, acting out is on my mind. Need to honest and keep sharing. I am restarting again...

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 10 Nov 2023 12:07 #403515

frank.lee Current streak: 398 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 687 Karma: 21	GYE can provide you with filter admins for you. I'm sure some readers here can help.

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 10 Nov 2023 14:58 #403522

benblum OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 66 Karma: 5	Definitely interested in this. Let me know

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 10 Nov 2023 16:46 #403523

chancy Current streak: 822 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 517 Karma: 22	Reach out to GYE, they have someone who helps with all things relating to filters.

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 11 Nov 2023 22:01 #403533

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guardyoureyes.com/component/content/article/15/26-filters

Check it out.

A general point about filters I want to speak out. You are a partner with them. If you have the mindset that the responsibility and security of the filter is on them, then it is you against the machine and you may try testing things.... It is a partnership. You need to do your part to stay clean and safe.

And from experience with certain filters, you can call them and speak to them and they can understand your issues and help you set yourself up for success! You can ask to speak to someone who can help you...

Last Edit: 11 Nov 2023 22:07 by frank.lee.

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 21 Nov 2023 16:26 #403918

benblum OFFLINE Senior Boarder Posts: 66 Karma: 5	Been sober and clean for 4 days. Not sure the reasoning but I take it. Trying to focus, being busy...I am grateful for the reprieve...Was lightly tempted yesterday evening but did not follow through...

Re: Tried a lot of things but failing over and over 21 Nov 2023 20:57 #403936

true_self Current streak: 42 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 528 Karma: 16	benblum wrote on 21 Nov 2023 16:26: Been sober and clean for 4 days. Not sure the reasoning but I take it. Trying to focus, being busy...I am grateful for the reprieve...Was lightly tempted yesterday evening but did not follow through... There's the reason!
	My thread: From two identities to True self If you want to reachout to me to talk please email: wish2banonym@gmail.com