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Re: Getting started again 30 Mar 2009 16:21 #4268

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Today's Chizuk e-mail (#443) is on it's way! I believe that what is says there is going to ultimately be your best bet. Let me know what you think of it.

Also, use this parable:

Some types of angler fish use a light on their head to attract prey right into their mouth. The little fish has strayed into deep waters and is cold, lonely and lost. Suddenly a little light appears. It looks calm and soothing, it looks like the light at the end of the tunnel. The fish is so attracted to the this light - he can't stop himself - and WHAM, he's dinner!!

Those who have become addicted to this behavior have strayed into deep waters. They have become troubled, lonely and depressed. When a beautiful woman passes by, or when the lure of the girls on the internet beckons, he feels he must have this fix for his troubles... he feels desperate for the warmth, the lust... he just wants to let go - the light is beckoning.... But, NO! STOP!!!! It's the evil one! He wants to destroy you! It's all a trick! Don't fall for it, or you're a gonner!
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Re: Getting started again 01 Apr 2009 02:11 #4301

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B"H I have completed day 12. I look forward to getting to 2 weeks! I did look into the SA groups. So far I can only find an SLAA Group. Is this the same as SA?
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Re: Getting started again 01 Apr 2009 20:08 #4305

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SLA is more liberal and usually mixed. We generally suggest SA for religious people, not SLA. If you go to www.sa.org, you can try and find groups in your area. Maybe contact them by e-mail...

May Hashem be with you! And like we wrote in today's Chizuk e-mail -#445 - we should all be Zoche to reach the level of a Poshut Yid!
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Re: Getting started again 05 Apr 2009 02:42 #4347

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As we get closer to Pesach I am looking forward to going into Yom Tov as a Tahor Yid. B'Ezras Hahem by the tim ePesach comes I will be going on 3 weeks. However my goal right now is to get to Pesach clean. I know this week will be filled with Nissyonos because that is the way of the yetzer. He knows if I get to Pesach it will give me tremendous chizuk so he is going to try to break me before Pesach. Please be mispallel for me that I should have Siyata Dishmaya to make it through this week.
Gut Voch.
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Re: Getting started again 07 Apr 2009 13:42 #4376

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Well it is erev erev Pesach. In my mind I keep telling myself, I just have to get to Wednesday morning. Birkas Hachama should be very inspiring and then the da will get very busy. All I want at this point is to be able to go into Pesach Kadosh V'Tahor!
Today is day 19 and I am feeling strong, maybe a little anxious about how I will get through today. I am a little concerned whether I will be able to keep it up long term or not but the truth is right now I just want to get through the next 24 hours.
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Re: Getting started again 07 Apr 2009 14:56 #4378

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One day at a time. Give over your will to Hashem and he will fight for you...

Have you been keeping up with the chizuk e-mails recently? Make sure to read 448 and 449 Here before Pesach...
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Re: Getting started again 07 Apr 2009 16:11 #4380

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I have been reading the chizuk emails. In my heart I am looking at it as just ge to Pesach and then deal with it after that. I find the busier I can keep myself the easier it is. On Wednesday I am travelling and obviously from Wed night to Motyzai Shabbos I wont be watching or looking at anything. So by getting to Pesach which is day 20- I will be able to reach day 23!! Is that the wrong approach?
I did go to a SLA meeting yesterday and really did not feel like I gained that much out of it. It did keep me busy so that was a good thing!
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Re: Getting started again 13 Apr 2009 20:00 #4423

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I am starting to have trouble! I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. I am starting to think about p...n all the time and how I can get online. Anu suggestions???? I am on day 23 clean. I have been davening and learning but can't seem to clear my mind. HELP!!
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Re: Getting started again 13 Apr 2009 20:10 #4424

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Usually at a time of crisis, the page on making a shavuah is very useful:

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/Tips/TipsShavuos.asp

I know that it is hard to make one of these, but usually, as soon as you do, the y"h realizes that you are serious.
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Re: Getting started again 13 Apr 2009 22:50 #4425

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See here: www.guardureyes.com/GUE/FAQ/FAQ39.asp

BTW, did you join an SA group or an SLA group? SA is much better.

But you need to get a sponsor and work the steps. Can you do this?
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Re: Getting started again 14 Apr 2009 00:50 #4429

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I went to SLA group because that was what was available. Now I am away for Pesach!
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