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accountability update 22 Apr 2021 16:30 #367290

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HI,

​Only made it 10 days this time (fell to both).

Not having such great streaks.

Posting for accountability 

thanks

Tg

​tgrehab@gmail

seems like 8 or so lost days since sept

Re: accountability update 22 Apr 2021 21:34 #367299

Its gonna sound cliche but its not about the length of the streaks don't beat urself up over it. Its such an obvious yetzer hara tactic (this is not my own idea I believe either Rabbi Shafier said it or it was in the battle of the generation, which means either way rabbi shafier probably said it lol) that you wanted to act out so many times and convinced yourself and rationalized that its really not so bad whats the big deal just this one last time and then as soon as you do it all of a sudden it is the worst thing in the world and you beat urself up how the heck did you do that...

The yetzer hara is trying to screw you over. Don't let him. 

Get right back up! Most of us have been in the area you are (I can't vouch for everyone so ill vouch for myself). Me personally for maybe a year or so I kept getting to 4-10 day streaks and kept falling until at a certain point I realized theres no miracle solution and I just gotta change this otherwise it will never go away it won't go away through marriage or once your 50 or 60 or whatever so you gotta just pounce on it now nothing will change so win now to give yourself a better life!
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com

Re: accountability update 29 Apr 2021 05:33 #367640

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Hi,

thanks so much!

anywau to convo via email?

mine is tgrehab@gmail thanks!

Re: accountability update 30 Apr 2021 04:00 #367708

Its a bit of a tircha for me id sooner chat or private message over here but if thats what you want to do we can do it
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com

Re: accountability update 03 May 2021 14:00 #367858

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Hi,

much easier for me that way is that's ok with you 
tgrehab@gmail

Re: accountability update 03 May 2021 15:13 #367861

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Hey! You can send me a pm too if you want to talk!

Re: accountability update 03 May 2021 15:17 #367862

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Hey, would be great to talk!

Can you speak via email?

im tgrehab@gmail.com

Re: accountability update 03 May 2021 21:25 #367903

Sorry wasn't on my game didn't see this sure ill send you an email
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
Aiming to be better

Feel free to contact me at evedhashem1836@gmail.com
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