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What role do yeshivas play here?
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Re: What role do yeshivas play here? 21 Apr 2021 23:01 #367247

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in my yishivah (a branch of chofets chaim) i know that at least one high school rebbe was available to talk to about these inyanim. the rosh hayishiva brought it up with my in my end of the year meeting after 2nd year. (unfortunately i didnt take the opportunity to actually get the help i needed than). there is a rebbe who gives parenting classes in kollel who advises bringing up the topic at the beginning of puberty in a fyi way of what will happen and that this is normal. this also keeps the channel of comunication open if the boy wants to discuss more.

Re: What role do yeshivas play here? 21 Apr 2021 23:22 #367249

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Thats probably a good idea. I think its officially "recommended" (as in what gedolim have done) to have a brief talk about these stuff when the kid is about 15/16 but I think most of us get hit with desires earlier and should get some sort of notice early like you said 
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!

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Re: What role do yeshivas play here? 21 Apr 2021 23:39 #367254

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he was talking about 7-10 years old 
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