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Striving for Excellence
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A platform of recovery for Jews who find themselves struggling with addictions to pornography, masturbation or other sexual problems. Post anonymously about your struggles without fear of anyone finding out who you are. Ask questions, post answers and be inspired! Get tips and guidance from the experts who moderate this forum, as well as from fellow strugglers.

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Re: Striving for Excellence 04 Jul 2021 17:44 #370475

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B"H clean, experienced a urge for a sec or 2 to start messing around online, but B"H dismissed it. It's just not worth it.

4 Days
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

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Re: Striving for Excellence 05 Jul 2021 21:47 #370516

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Thank you Hashem for another day clean.
5 days
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 06 Jul 2021 21:49 #370544

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6 Days.
I mustn't take a single day for granted otherwise I become less aware and that's when the Yetzer hora catches me.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 08 Jul 2021 18:13 #370621

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Slipped for a few minutes tonight by searching for stuff i shouldn't of on you tube, but BH Hashem stopped me.
Back on track now Bez"H.
8 Days
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 08 Jul 2021 21:01 #370630

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Maybe you all know about this, but for those who don't, please have a look at:
wiki.guardyoureyes.com/Main_Page

no words to describe the effort that's gone into it. unreal.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 09 Jul 2021 15:26 #370648

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B.H Clean
A Gut Shabbos,

9 days
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 10 Jul 2021 21:52 #370672

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Gut Voch,
10 Days.
I keep reminding myself 2 things: 1- I must be constantly on gaurd. 2- slipping will most likely lead to a fall, so don't be lenient and allow yourself to browse sites or stuff that may trigger...  
Have a wonderfull week,
excellence
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 12 Jul 2021 12:44 #370732

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12 Days.
Hodu Lashem Ki tov. I do find that updating daily in the forum is far more effective than just every so often.
In not long I will be travelling to a location where I don't remember ever not falling there at least once, so I must make a plan. I will post more about this closer to the time.

Thanks, 
Excellence
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 13 Jul 2021 05:20 #370768

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Just to complain/be accountable... I keep slipping by browsing inappropriate material.... I have about 3/4 of a second to make a decision before Iv'e clicked the button.... If I don't stop I'll end up falling. Guaranteed. So ODAAT today I will make that decision for the positive for true plesaure over choosing a few seconds of total false pleasure, since what I see on the screen does not portray real life in any way...
I actually saw a video of celebs then and now... it's scary to see how they end up.... also saw a vid of celebs without makeup when they not performing... it's insane to see the Sheker how they cover up thier plain simple un enticing look.

Sorry for the rant....
excellence
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 13 Jul 2021 12:41 #370772

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excellence wrote on 12 Jul 2021 12:44:
In not long I will be travelling to a location where I don't remember ever not falling there at least once, so I must make a plan. I will post more about this closer to the time.

Thanks, 
Excellence

The time above is approaching... this location has totally unfiltered devices. I'm trying to come up with a good accountability idea -ideally with my wife- for this period of time. I need help thinking of a good idea. History shows Knosas don't work for me. I may aswell pay before I start!!
my wife is very understanding that unfiltered devices are dangerous and a big nisayon for men, and I think it would be very effective to come up with some sort of plan together. I just can't think of something that doesn't make me sound bad... 

all ideas welcome and greatly appreciated.
Thanks
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Last Edit: 13 Jul 2021 12:42 by excellence.

Re: Striving for Excellence 13 Jul 2021 19:34 #370788

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13 days.
Thank you so much to everyone who takes time to read my thread.

Tonight I had the ability to mess around online, as my wife has gone out, but NO I won't.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 14 Jul 2021 22:28 #370867

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14 Days.
ODAAT
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 15 Jul 2021 23:11 #370928

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15 Days.
I need to keep constantly aware since at this point i often enter cruise mode.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Striving for Excellence 16 Jul 2021 15:12 #370955

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Dear Friends,

​Iv'e been thinking what sort of plan I can make for myself whilst I travel after Tisha B'av, as at the location I will be staying at, there is open access to unfiltered devices. I have always fallen there and in my formative years I spent hours watching porn there.

Monetary Kenosos have not worked for me there, even big ones. I would say that I'm in a better state now than in the past but I certainly have to make a plan.
I believe the knowledge of being held accountable by others will be a powerful motivation to resist an urge.

​I therefore want to make the following request:
If I manage to stay clean, I am looking for GYE Chaverim who will agree beforehand to take upon themselves to say one Yom of Tehilim (as a zechus for siyato dishmayo for me and all the special members of GYE) , in lieu of the fact that I managed to stay clean.
I believe, that if I know that by giving in to an urge i am giving up on the whole sefer tehilim being said because of me, i will Bez"H be able to resist.
I will be at this location untill  close to Elul. 
​I am looking for a minimum of 7 volunteers, that way Tehillim will be finished at least once.

If your interested, Please reply on this thread by writing the Yom of Tehilim you agree to take. Please go in order, i.e the first volunter takes Yom rishon e.t.c

​With tremendous thanks in advance for showing kidness to an anonymous friend trying to surf the waves out there.

With love
Excellence
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Last Edit: 16 Jul 2021 15:14 by excellence.

Re: Striving for Excellence 16 Jul 2021 15:43 #370956

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Nice idea!
I would take Yom Hashabbos.
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