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Re: The Truth 12 May 2022 14:23 #380655

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 12 May 2022 13:45:
I have realized that there are just times that I cannot cope with life without at least some pacifier. Be it lust, food, alcohol, or just staying in bed. Lust is the safest physically, I am just not sure about it because it might be making my depression worse. Sometimes I use food, which gives me the feeling of loss of control. I try to limit my alcohol consumption because that would be a disaster. 

It's tricky, I am hopeful that I will get through this, working through therapy. I am exploring medication, that might also take an edge off of the struggle.

And that's it for now.

Thanks for sharing this. I find the same. There is a tendency to substitute one escape with another.
I'd ask myself: What am I running away from right now? Why am I uncomfortable with it? Sometimes I need to attack it head-on. For example, if it's procrastinating at work, etc.
As you point out, some forms of escapism are healthier than others. How about going for a run or lifting weights?

Re: The Truth 12 May 2022 20:44 #380671

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 12 May 2022 13:45:
I have realized that there are just times that I cannot cope with life without at least some pacifier. Be it lust, food, alcohol, or just staying in bed. Lust is the safest physically, I am just not sure about it because it might be making my depression worse. Sometimes I use food, which gives me the feeling of loss of control. I try to limit my alcohol consumption because that would be a disaster. 

It's tricky, I am hopeful that I will get through this, working through therapy. I am exploring medication, that might also take an edge off of the struggle.

And that's it for now.

i find sleeping the safest hence,sleepy
For an explanation on my choice of username and avatar see my first post

Re: The Truth 13 May 2022 04:36 #380687

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 31 May 2021 18:33:

Hashem Help Me wrote on 31 May 2021 11:29:
I asked because one needs to replace the thrill to some extent. It can be toned down a lot, but nevertheless, there has to be some replacement for the lost "excitement".

And yes, go celebrate. appreciate where you are up to and thank Hashem for it by sharing the celebration with others (without going into details....)

Thing is I do things a little extreme, like I used to work out, and unless I really go crazy it doesn't really give me a thrill (and I don't have time anymore for a full blown workout).

I really like learning, I wish I could get a thrill from it consistently. I wish I would just be able to get through a full zman on the thrill of learning itself. 

But, G-d obviously has other plans.

Although some are newer here and don't have patience reading through an entire forum, WNGUs forum would be a pretty wise one to start from the beginning. 
​Lot's of really good info and very unique perspectives.
Hope for the best Prepare for the worst

Re: The Truth 13 May 2022 04:41 #380688

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Thanks for sharing this. I find the same. There is a tendency to substitute one escape with another.
I'd ask myself: What am I running away from right now? Why am I uncomfortable with it? Sometimes I need to attack it head-on. For example, if it's procrastinating at work, etc.
As you point out, some forms of escapism are healthier than others. How about going for a run or lifting weights?

Someone knee-deep in therapy may very well be working through what he is running away from etc., the thing is, that doesn't minimize the pain during the process. In fact usually it exasperates it in the pain.
Hope for the best Prepare for the worst

Re: The Truth 21 Jun 2022 13:58 #382212

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"The Truth" is that I miss your presence here... (Maybe your busy suing the Truth social for taking your name?...) 

Re: The Truth 22 Jun 2022 18:51 #382271

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Sapy wrote on 21 Jun 2022 13:58:
"The Truth" is that I miss your presence here... (Maybe your busy suing the Truth social for taking your name?...) 

I'm back. I was really busy the last couple of weeks and didn't have much time.
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