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Re: ADHD 24 Jul 2020 08:20 #352982

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So if anyone finds this helpful, I've been looking into this and found a few thing that work. (They may work with non adhd as well).

So for ALL adhd people, there is a time of day where your brain is must focused. A window of time during the day when your mind is most focused. For some it's in the morning, others midday, and some at night. We all however have at least one. The best thing for us to do then, is to schedule our time based on that period, and aim to get our most important daily tasks done during it. They can be whatever you feel is most important to get accomplished. This helps with
A. Getting things done
B. Creating a schedule that actually works
C. Gaining a sense of accomplishment from actual successes.

Another thing that works, (but be careful with it) is to actually indulge in your adhd curiosity. As in when you find your mind wandering and getting off topic, let it follow that train of thought or that idea. Allow yourself some time to explore and see where trains of thoughts lead. This can help calm and settle the mind overall and help actually be productive. WARNING. This doesn't mean waste hours on end following something trivial and non productive (been there done that so many times that I'm selling the t-shirt wholesale). But allow yourself short breaks to mentally indulge. Some of the best ideas and thoughts can actually come from doing this.

Set yourself intervals during whatever activity you are doing, to take a 5 minute break. This one applies to all men. Apparently, the male mind works optimally focused for periods of only up to 25~40 minutes (less for adhd, unless hyper-focusing in which case, hours on end). To reset this focus, all that's apparently needed is a few minutes of break. 5 minutes being optimal. Peak focus is reset and the mind is capable of performing at its best. This break also doesn't have to be something unproductive, it can be something that you enjoy and just turns your mind off for a few minutes from the thing that you were focused on before.

There are more, I'm sure. I'd love to hear tips and ideas from people on the forum. Feedback would also be appreciated.
Thank you
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Re: ADHD 29 Jul 2020 07:54 #353115

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if anyone has advice or if you want to reach out, then you can message me at sbthe.ace@gmail.com
yesod ha'chassidus ve'shoresh ho'avodah...

find your duty... make it real!!!!...  make your goals...  set your sights...  and work for it!!!!!
reach out at sbthe.ace@gmail.com I'm always willing to talk

Re: ADHD 16 Aug 2020 13:29 #353817

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So i just got a helpful tip. (thank you yechida)

(This could be helpful for even non ADHD people)

Carry around a small notebook, and write in it small tasks and goals for the day that you need or want to achieve. Constantly check your book (even if you remember whats written in it) to make it a habit. That way even if you get distracted by things, it will enable you to refocus and get back on track.

As an aside, ADHD is classified as a disorder in that the symptoms, which ARE found in normal regular people, are too much and out of control. (due to actual proven disorder in the brain chemistry). just like everyone has minor OCD thoughts, but are not OCD until those thoughts become above a certain threshold and IMPACT your life, ie out of control. so too with ADHD, as long as the symptoms are normal and manageable then its not considered adhd, only when it is unmanageable and out of control does it get classified as such. additionally the rise of such symptoms are partially due to modern lifestyle and the ubiquity of technology in our lives, meaning these symptoms have become a lot more common. still the deciding factor is, and remains, its impact on a persons life and their ability to control them.
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find your duty... make it real!!!!...  make your goals...  set your sights...  and work for it!!!!!
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Re: ADHD 11 Jul 2021 18:05 #370700

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wow this seems really interesting i always thought i have adhd and when im reading this thread i cant keep on one post i keep on scroling whitch is quite ironic reading a thread about adhd 
"​if you keep doing what your doing your gonna keep getting what your getting"
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Re: ADHD 12 Jul 2021 06:35 #370727

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Hey! Love your posts! I actually was recently diagnosed with ADHD and am trying to channel the benefits to help me but not get pulled down and get lost, I love your posts they really have clear and helpful ideas, also I agree with you that ADHD makes the challenge of pornography and masturbation harder, not that we have a bigger ta'avah but can fall faster if we don't make the necessary precautions because we are so impulsive, and its hard to control where we wander, I think the solution is to plan ahead, again wherever and whatever you do you have to plan how you wont fall, or else your potentially planning to fail, I personally got rid of my smartphone because no matter how many filters and restrictions I had, being with it 24/7, I would automatically at sometime  get triggered and feel impulsive and want to act to out, and use it to arouse me even if I couldn't watch porn, looking forward to being in touch and getting chizuk from a fellow ADHD'er in the same struggle!
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Re: ADHD 21 Jul 2021 16:49 #371105

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I have ADHD, I was diagnosed as a child. (properly diagnosed, by a neurologist not "your kid's not paying attention in class give him meds and see if it works")  
I believe based on my own experience and what I have read about ADHD that ADHD is not properly defined as an inability to focus, but as an inability to focus on things that one is not fully interested in doing. This explains a lesser known symptom of ADHD called hyperfocus which is when a person focused intensively on whatever they are doing and zones out on everything else. I find that this is actually a very useful tool in fighting the יצר הרע if I have a urge to act out I will engage myself in an activity that  I enjoy and by the time that I come back to this world the urge has often passed. 
Also, a word about meds, I took medication for about 10 years. The side effects are real, and with the advice of my doctor I eventually stopped them because of the side effects. Sometimes medication is necessary, (it was for me when I was still a kid and not responsible enough to deal with it myself) but if you can manage your ADHD without medication it is better that way.

Re: ADHD 21 Jul 2021 17:34 #371107

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ADHD is a direct lead to addiction. or better say they both derived from the same source.

Re: ADHD 21 Jul 2021 18:48 #371109

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Controlling desires when one is faced with a struggle requires one to stop for a few seconds and think straight about what is happening. If a person has attention deficit (-hyperactivity) disorder, he will act more impulsive by nature, and he won’t necessarily stop to consider whether or not what he is doing is the correct course of action.

Also, he mind of someone with ADHD is wired to have a higher threshold for pleasure; what is considered special and exciting for him is at a higher level than the typical. He will very often be one of those people who complain that life is so boring, and he will therefore seek out activities that are very exciting. Because activities in this area are highly stimulating, they therefore appeal to a person who is unfocused because they help him focus on something in a very sensational way. It is therefore difficult for someone who has symptoms of ADHD to deal with this challenge.
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Re: ADHD 21 Jul 2021 23:12 #371115

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I also struggle with ADHD. The most prominent symptom of it is that I procrastinate every day. Tried meds, therapy, to-do lists, nothing seems to work effectively long-term for me
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