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Sur mera' va'aseih-tov
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A platform of recovery for Jews who find themselves struggling with addictions to pornography, masturbation or other sexual problems. Post anonymously about your struggles without fear of anyone finding out who you are. Ask questions, post answers and be inspired! Get tips and guidance from the experts who moderate this forum, as well as from fellow strugglers.
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Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 20 Oct 2019 20:09 #344297

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First post starting on Hoshana Rabbah 5780 (2019): I tried Sur mera and now realize I need the Aseih-tov. My posting is the Aseih-tov; G-d willing, may I succeed. Love to hear from you all.  

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 23 Oct 2019 14:39 #344331

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Welcome
With time i realised there are two types of sobriety. Negative and positive.
Negative means as you say Sur merah - push away anything negative, anything lustful, any fantasies - push them away, but by me they came back even harder after that and it usually ended in a fall. Whereas positive sobriety means by me, instead of actively pushing it away i started thinking of other thing or started reading books from the Shmuz, that way starting to think of other things and through that the fantasy or the feeling did not come back stronger
Hazlacha

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 23 Oct 2019 20:52 #344366

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Welcome. It should be with hatzlocha!
Feel free to contact me at michelgelner@gmail.com

My threads: Lessons Learned: guardyoureyes.com/forum/20-Important-Threads/335248-Lessons-Learned

                    My Story and G-d Bless GYE: guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/303036-My-story-and-G-d-bless-GYE

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 24 Oct 2019 09:49 #344406

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Hi, thank you for the reply and sharing your experience. I did have that fall a few days later as you described; fun is a lot more tempting than work. I have what to keep me busy it's the computer which is the challenge. Can you tell how you handle the computer situation. I have Gentech on high filtering but I still manage to google images, pictures in the hope of finding a website that isn't blocked. 
Look forward to hearing from you.

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 24 Oct 2019 10:27 #344407

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Thank you for responding. I take chizuk from your story. Please tell me how you deal with using the computer. I have Gentech on high filtering but I still manage to google "images", "pictures" or the like hoping of finding a website that isn't blocked. After finding such a site I spend some time there until I send in a request to block them. 
Look forward to hearing from you.

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 25 Oct 2019 12:21 #344465

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I also have Gentech.  I had them set up image blocking, which might help with what you are describing.  But keep in mind that the best filters are the ones you don't try to break.....

Re: Sur mera' va'aseih-tov 25 Oct 2019 14:00 #344469

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Yes, I agree. I called them to remove explicit images. I didn't know of that option. Thank you
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