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TOPIC: Frustrated 1196 Views

Frustrated 14 Jul 2019 19:52 #342275

  • seinayim
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Wife is in nidda. Help?

Re: Frustrated 15 Jul 2019 00:59 #342282

  • ColinColin
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Not easy but you have to divert your energy.

Do housework.
Paint the house.
Cook a nice meal.
Clear out the garden shed.

Above all - do something which will benefit your wife and Shalom Bayit.
Last Edit: 15 Jul 2019 01:00 by ColinColin.

Re: Frustrated 13 Aug 2019 22:47 #342838

  • farblunjet
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Re: Frustrated 14 Aug 2019 05:04 #342846

  • strive613
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What works for me:  I can't say 'ok, I just need to hold out for two weeks and then she'll go to mikvah'...Because I'm creating an undercurrent of 'I need this' and anticipation.  If I need this, I need it now, I can't wait two weeks!  
I need to tell myself 'I don't need to have sex today.  I need to find something for today to fill that void.'  Two weeks time will only come into two weeks time!
Good luck!
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