guardureyes wrote on 10 Dec 2009 08:42:
To continue the line of reasoning that Ano's using, I think the 90 day program is similar to what Reb Shlachter is trying now with Momo.
Not really.
I don't want to turn this thread into another 90 days vs. Rav S approach, but I feel the need to explain for myself what Rav S's 2 week assignment for me is all about.
The 2 weeks isn't the 90 days. Here's the difference:
During my 2 weeks I'm not allowed to hide from life and run to the virtual world of the Net, but I am "allowed" to act out as much as I want while in the 90 days you can't.
(This is only for me, not to condone acting out. I need to first work on my learning how to live, then I can deal with the lust issue.)
Knowing I have "permission" to act out makes the 2 weeks NOT a control issue. Instead, it's about forcing me to learning how to live.
I haven't acted out yet, and I don't plan on it. I figure while I'm stopping surfing forbidden images and that lessens my lust, I might as well NOT act out. But the fact I can act out if I want to makes it more manageable.
This is a very personal approach and everyone should speak to his/her own therapist for practical advice. If the 90 days works for you and you don't feel controlled and choked up about it, you have no heter to act out.