Helping them to make goals, My wife takes them to the library every week, it took them a while but now as teenagers they love to read, and they have hobbies that they may turn into businesses.  My wife gives them landscaping projects, when I came home and saw their work it was so nice.  We do not allow them television time, and when I have a client who will let one of my boys work with me, they get to come.  They are boys but learn about proper ways to treat a woman, their mother knows of other relatives and friends who have been abused.  Thank you GYE, may our Maker keep blessing your work, and I hope to share apart of my journey of continual victory too here, Shalom.

When the day begins and end we have our personal time, what they did, what they had problems with, by keeping the lines of talk open they will hopefully always talk with us.

These boy have time in Proverbs and Tehillim every evening, and they often go on a walk or bicycle ride with me, they often share in mothers crafting project, and they love to do secret acts of kindness.  They love their Lego sets and right now hope to be engineers.

My boys love mother and Father Time, not only doing what we wish, but doing things they like to do, they have loved the simple walk, they love doing kind deeds, they love telling stories, as they make them up, it is great to hear them putting their Torah lessons on their stories.  Personal time and intimacy of bonding, leads to them respecting us parents more, and sharing daddy life story, the successes, the failures, the lion, the broken car, the two slices of whole wheat bread, and many other stories.

My boys are to share their days happenings, my son when shopping Friday, and someone had a shirt with a woman not fully dressed, my son told me of the event, he pass it by quickly, and shared his victory with his dad.  It is so important to keep the lines of sharing open!

My boys love to tell their imaginary stories, and sometimes I ask if I can join in, and sometimes at supper I get to. I go do a good deed, or a Torah man, wins, and evil is conquered.  What is very ice is that is how their stories go anyway, she I just listening.

"It is so important to keep the lines of sharing open!"

Truer words have never been spoken.

Their stories often contain Torah thoughts. And I am there listening. As they are teenagers it time for the birds and bee talk again.  Especially reminding them than hormones respond the the beauty of woman, look not only on their skin. I will find out if their eyes have been pulled by desire. 

I had the talk of the birds and bees, reading of the woman who waits to steal affection from the book of wisdom. I spoke of budding hormones, erections in the morning, and eyes that seeing woman' beauty with growing Desire. Their response was excellent, as they both responded with their stories of what they would do, when such an event came to be. I reminded them I was always there for them. As their hormone grew, and their interest in the opposite sex grew, they would understand more that daddy was preparing them to face their future.  By their response, they were getting ready as I shared.

This week gave my boys training in earning money, the lady who hired them, wanted to pay them for their work, and give them extra for their spirit. She decided after I ask her a few question to not be so vague of why her kindness was extended to them. She saw their potential, and she saw their work, and she choose to speak of both of them, to encourage them. May my boys grow in always giving their best, and never take advantage of others kindness.  May they always aim to reach for their own highest ideals, in our Makers strength and help.

The mother of my sons, reminded them they are handsome boys, they will have girls seeking their attention, they are to be respectful, not take advantage. They are to remember others will test them to see if they can be used. She counsel them to give all a fair break, yet speak up, communicate, life is full of communication moments. We all need tougher skins, and a heart of mercy, and hope. Yet as one of my sons found out to take mothers fruit, without asking, there are consequences, and even daddy is going to stand behind not taking even from a love one, for the danger of quietly get away with thief in the public is always there too. For us men, it is not getting away with that stealing of the lustful thought.

When things do not go my boys way, and they only talk to themselves, here is where I go and have a personal chat with them, it time to reconnect with a parent, reconnect with real humans. As a child I was taught to be quiet, I was to listen and obey. I sought a way to be in charge, and when I found the first magazine, it was power, control, and pleasure, but humans relationships, as a youth I found it too hard to work it out; the team effort, the conscious action of knowing where and how the other person thinks, their comfort zones, their presence boundaries, all of which the imaginary world can never give me or my boys. So I may talk things through with myself, as an individual who trying to see outside the me box, to the whole picture box, but the whole picture includes the other live people in my box, and after talking, then prayer to sort out actions that may in time improve my family, and later any relationship of my life.  The family circle is the testing ground, and both me and my wife, are determined to give better tool of communication, and action to our boys to work with.

When children get bored, extra time with dad.  I have a note board that I go over with my boys each evening.  My boys have chores to do every day, if they make a mess, they clean it up. They recently had a neighbor over, a young teenagers like them, they we friendly,  and play in the front yard together, and us parents kept an eye on them, and they enjoyed, and all is well.