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90 Days? 01 Feb 2009 01:09 #2700

  • Yankel
Hey, I was wondering why 90 Days? what is so special about 90. I was under the impression that it takes 40 days to break any bad habits(Noam Elimelech? I believe)
Thanks
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Re: 90 Days? 01 Feb 2009 01:24 #2701

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The number is 21 days to break a habit, but not to break an addictive tendency that affects the
chemicals in your brain.  After 90 days your neurons begin to create new neuro pathways in your
brain when they don't experience the rush of the addictive feeling we get when acting out.
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Re: 90 Days? 01 Feb 2009 02:57 #2702

  • eme
V'sain Tal...moreed hageshem.....it takes 30 days (3 Teffilos X 30 = 90) to get very used to it - to the point that if we forget if we said it, we can assume we did...
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Re: 90 Days? 01 Feb 2009 11:18 #2718

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Dear me2,
See #6 on this page. (And while you're there, read the other tips too  )

BTW. Do you have a source for the Noam Elimelech of 40 days? I'd love to see it...
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Re: 90 Days? 01 Feb 2009 19:33 #2726

  • Yankel
No, thats what I remember someone telling me.
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Re: 90 Days? 05 Feb 2009 01:09 #2825

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guardureyes wrote on 01 Feb 2009 11:18:

Dear me2,
See #6 on this page. (And while you're there, read the other tips too  )

BTW. Do you have a source for the Noam Elimelech of 40 days? I'd love to see it...


The Tzetel Koton talks about how many days. However, I would wonder whether he is referring to addiction as Elya explains. ( Udvorov tzrichim iyun or biur.)
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