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Re: Once or forever 23 Nov 2015 19:00 #269406

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Back to your orignal question. Will you want to forever? Nobody can answer that question. When forever comes you will know. My question is why do you care about forever?
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Re: Once or forever 23 Nov 2015 19:59 #269427

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Shlomo24, Imagine you are on a diet and your loosing wight doing exercise getting the complements and you really look good. Your friends think you have it easy, but you in your hart know that it's a daily fight of not and not and not, wouldn't you feel miserable?
how long can you cope with this?
The truth is that I'm scared if I'll fall back, my life is so good today that I want to keep it up.
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

אָמַר רבי יוחנן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ = שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ = רָעֵב

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Last Edit: 23 Nov 2015 20:00 by doingtshuva.

Re: Once or forever 25 Nov 2015 01:00 #269570

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doingtshuva

Think about the moments when you want to look at this porn.
Those are the danger moments.
Think about the triggers that make you want to look at it.
Learn to recognise them, then take a deep breath and do some other action....read a book, go for a walk, write, phone a friend, anything else.
Hungry Angry Lonely Tired

These are key triggers to recognise and act upon.
Last Edit: 25 Nov 2015 01:00 by ColinColin.

Re: Once or forever 25 Nov 2015 09:08 #269611

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Colin,
This is what I'm doing for the past 2+ years.
I have changed and I have burich hashem long clean strikes.
It wasn't and it isn't easy at all, but it's possible to stay sober almost under every circumstance in life.
Once I was blaming he and she for my problem, but I have learned that it doesn't matter.
Just get sober and enjoy life. Or choose to suffer with some tiny momentary false pleasure.

But I'm waiting for the day that I won't desire it at all.
It might be that that day will be in my grave, so meanwhile I got to stay sober.

I'm just in a good mood
Thanks God
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

אָמַר רבי יוחנן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ = שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ = רָעֵב

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Re: Once or forever 30 Nov 2015 11:30 #269905

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A week had past and I feel that the urge does fade with time.
Yes I have to be careful in the future.
I have the possibilities to fall at work, I work with almost open @ but burich hashem the Taphsik Methoud guardyoureyes.com/the-gye-program/20-tools/item/tool-10 helps not to fall.

Does anyone have experience with fortifyprogram.org/ ?

Thanks
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

אָמַר רבי יוחנן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ = שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ = רָעֵב

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Re: Once or forever 30 Nov 2015 15:17 #269921

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I second this question the website looks really sophisticated. It also costs money.
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Re: Once or forever 30 Nov 2015 19:32 #269935

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doingtshuva wrote:
Does anyone have experience with fortifyprogram.org/ ?


While I don't have experience with this particular program, I followed the link and looked at the site for a bit, and while there were some interesting ideas there, I feel like it's important to put out a warning that the website contains a fair amount of what some people would consider triggering material (I'm definitely guilty of looking through the site too thoroughly, for 'educational purposes' of course...), and they seem to be partnered with other "anti-pornography" sites with even more triggering material.

Maybe I'm just a bit paranoid, but I'm a bit wary of an addiction support website with a high amount of triggering material on it...

Re: Once or forever 01 Dec 2015 01:58 #269969

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I'm not sure what you're referring to unless you paid and were in the sight itself. I don't think it's a write off though. I would therefore appreciate an educated opinion of the site, and if what it stands for has any merit, as it may well be a help to some people.
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Last Edit: 01 Dec 2015 04:57 by mggsbms.

Re: Once or forever 01 Dec 2015 22:51 #270064

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Hi mggsbms and m58yiw84niym
Thanks for your response, I wasn't yet on fortifyprogram.org/ because you first have to log in and pay. Here on GYE we are for free.

Now about the Kashrus of the site everybody should test himself if t triggers him or not.
GYE recommends fortifyprogram.org/ on their home page, so yesh al me lismoch.
guardyoureyes.com/ Blue level
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

אָמַר רבי יוחנן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ = שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ = רָעֵב

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Last Edit: 02 Dec 2015 08:29 by doingtshuva.

Re: Once or forever 01 Dec 2015 22:58 #270066

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You can listen to the forfity program on the Hebrew Gye
fortify.gye.org.il/
 *  NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!
 *  I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.
 *  Being curios made me lust and get into trouble.

אָמַר רבי יוחנן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ = שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ = רָעֵב

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