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Im trying this out... 25 Jul 2014 06:53 #236013

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Instead of only counting our falls we should record our successes and what we did in that moment , davened to Hashem ,called someone, went for a walk, got chizuk from GYE that way it will build confidence and it will show us what worked while we were triggered. Also we wont be afraid to be triggered because we already have a ready plan a fun thing were going to do when were triggered. Wishing the best for Klal Yisrael May Hashem help every one of us overcome this Asap Amen!

Re: Im trying this out... 25 Jul 2014 09:49 #236019

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Absolutely! I have a close friend with whom I share my successes and he shares his with me. We both get chizuk from this.
Roy in the SA White Book noted that we frequently prayed and it did not work...because the best we could muster was begging G-d to "Please take it away, so I will not have to give it up!

No amount of sobriety can cure the insanity -ChaimCharlie

The emmes hurts but fake chizzuk will hurt more -Bards

Remember, best block, no be there - Mr. Miyagi

Re: Im trying this out... 27 Jul 2014 06:40 #236084

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Totally!! Some books / therapists highly recommend setting aside 10 minutes a day to write what you did correctly and why you feel good about it...

Re: Im trying this out... 28 Jul 2014 13:06 #236163

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I personally heard from a grandson of the Chofetz Chaim, that the CC had a booklet in which he recorded the good things which he had accomplished.

Re: Im trying this out... 28 Jul 2014 16:04 #236169

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Deeoneoneone, thanks for the thread. Loving it!

Shivisi, that's the most inspiring story I've heard. The CC? ? Wow!
Usually, we hear the other way around (which, btw, was also the case by the CC).
Besides for the chizuk it gives, it can also be a big michayiv. Which means it's no less a cheshbon hanefesh than keeping track of my falls.
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