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TOPIC: Tryin' 271605 Views

Re: Tryin' 20 Dec 2022 17:04 #389776

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Hi Cords, I feel bad that my comment on a different thread turned into a whole political thing, it was totally not my intention. But can I respectfully request that you rethink the use of word above, even with the asterisk? It may be my sensitivty, but I feel that since we are all Jews here trying to recover, we should talk and type the way the Torah would want us to. If I may add that even though you write many comments not as a moderator, still the people here, myself included, do view you as such and you do carry the title of role model, whether you like it or not. It's your call, I'm just bringing my sensitivity to your attention. Keep sharing your cutting-to-the-core comments! And thank you for all you do.
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Re: Tryin' 20 Dec 2022 17:22 #389780

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Yes Cordnoy, I also ask with love, peace, hearts, politely, humbly, tears, laughter, joy, etc. (Just remember no judgment) and since you only wrote it and didn't do anything your accepted, loved cherished and normal. Last time I checked the statistic shows that some part of the world population uses those words so no worries! 

Re: Tryin' 21 Dec 2022 04:34 #389832

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You guys are holding at a very high level. Wow one day i hope to be like you. Unfortunately, i wish i can release some serious energy every now and then with an "*" bomb.                          Keep on inspiring. If i ever get to your level, you guys will be a big reason i do!
I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment. 
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions. 

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain. 

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.
Last Edit: 21 Dec 2022 04:35 by human being.

Re: Tryin' 21 Dec 2022 05:27 #389835

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This post will be somewhat cryptic (more than usual), but we on the Forum have been played. Out of confidentiality (although I didn't make any commitments), I will not divulge what I know now. This immaturity enabled the perfect storm and emotions were stoked and feelin's were intensified and chaos ensued. Sadly, people got hurt. One person's childish behavior cannot condone, nor excuse others from their/our adverse and damagin' reactions, and at the same time, we let our guard down, and we lost some of our objectivity. On behalf of GYE, I apologize for allowin' this to happen on my watch. While I don't take a salary and am otherwise busy, I should've smelled the dirty rat, and truth be told, early on, I had some suspicion and I did investigate, but I failed, and for this I'm truly sorry.

Hopefully, you will not hear another word about this from me (not in private either), and to all of you, if you (just) think that I'm referrin' to you, I am not; if you KNOW (beyond a shadow of a doubt) that I'm referrin' to you, then I am.

Godspeed to all

And, by the way, this post is bein' written as a Moderator
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Last Edit: 21 Dec 2022 05:38 by cordnoy.

Re: Tryin' 21 Dec 2022 13:49 #389844

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Kudos, Cordnoy. I’m sure there will be apologies coming all around for those people on the forum who were harmed and maligned in this process. We certainly don’t want any rats in our midst!

Re: Tryin' 22 Dec 2022 04:46 #389874

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cordnoy wrote on 21 Dec 2022 05:27:
This post will be somewhat cryptic (more than usual), but we on the Forum have been played. Out of confidentiality (although I didn't make any commitments), I will not divulge what I know now. This immaturity enabled the perfect storm and emotions were stoked and feelin's were intensified and chaos ensued. Sadly, people got hurt. One person's childish behavior cannot condone, nor excuse others from their/our adverse and damagin' reactions, and at the same time, we let our guard down, and we lost some of our objectivity. On behalf of GYE, I apologize for allowin' this to happen on my watch. While I don't take a salary and am otherwise busy, I should've smelled the dirty rat, and truth be told, early on, I had some suspicion and I did investigate, but I failed, and for this I'm truly sorry.

Hopefully, you will not hear another word about this from me (not in private either), and to all of you, if you (just) think that I'm referrin' to you, I am not; if you KNOW (beyond a shadow of a doubt) that I'm referrin' to you, then I am.

Godspeed to all

And, by the way, this post is bein' written as a Moderator

What this unfortunate rat did show us, is how passionate we all are to help our children, friends, and community stay safe, healthy and holy. So even though there was chaos, I believe we can respect each other that much more, now that the storm has past. Look how much we each care about each other. We are willing to sacrifice limb and respect, just to make sure we keep everyone safe and sound. Love you guys. And as for the rat, I'm curios who you are, what you did, and why you did it. Amar Rav human being, תיקו:
I'm sick of the Un-scientific approach of today's medical and social environment. 
we will never heal and become a better society unless we realize that all people are addicts. Any thing we do that we aren't interested in is "addiction" and medicine doesn't fix addictions. 

Pain causes addiction and medicine cant fix pain. 

Unless we heal our pain, and become truama conscious so as not to cause others pain, we will never be living in a functioning human society.

Re: Tryin' 25 Jan 2023 04:32 #391227

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Good evenin'

T'was an extremely rough one for many different reasons - lots of projects headin' southward - with God's help, tomorrow will be a 180.

I spent way too much time here tonight. Posts were becomin' toxic and I was bein' pressured to do somethin'. I didn't know what to do, so I tried hidin' the thread. I finally succeeded. I now tried to bring it back - many times, but to no avail. As this will be my last post for the next considerable while, please tell the other Mods that the thread is restin' comfortably in Rage's corner - in a different thread called "stay somethin'" or somethin' like that.

Why will I not be commentin'? For I am institutin' a new policy and I don't wanna be accused of a double standard. Anyone can have any opinions they want, but if they become snarky in any way or persist in makin' a thread or issue toxic, they will be banned from the site for a week. This is the warnin'. They will be reinstated after the week. In this game, two strikes and you're out. Jokes are fine, vehement disagreements - with anyone - are encouraged and welcomed as well, any manner of recovery or lack thereof is also good, but I draw the line at toxicity. Who decides that? You guessed it. I'm sorry if you don't like that, but that's where it will be for the next foreseeable future. I give you my word that I will be fair.

Take care and Godspeed

[After this post got deleted and was nowhere to be found, I sat down to type it again - I was ready to start with: Just when I thought this night can't get worse, and then - it reappeared, so I said B"H! Perhaps 'tomorrow' is comin' earlier.]

Oh, and this as well is bein' written as a Moderator.
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Re: Tryin' 25 Jan 2023 11:32 #391228

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cordnoy wrote on 25 Jan 2023 04:32:
I spent way too much time here tonight. Posts were becomin' toxic and I was bein' pressured to do somethin'. I didn't know what to do, so I tried hidin' the thread. I finally succeeded. I now tried to bring it back - many times, but to no avail. As this will be my last post for the next considerable while, please tell the other Mods that the thread is restin' comfortably in Rage's corner - in a different thread called "stay somethin'" or somethin' like that.
Oh, and this as well is bein' written as a Moderator.

Glad I missed this.
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Re: Tryin' 25 Jan 2023 20:57 #391245

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Hi Kvoid HaModerator Shlita! Just want to thank you for keeping things in check. can I make a suggestion? There are all types of topic groups on the forum homepage. Maybe you can start a new group titled "toxic boich-svaros" and the threads that you need to you can just move there? Not lookin' for a fight with anyone, just suggestin', ouch, no need to, ouch, get physical:)
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Last Edit: 27 Jan 2023 04:50 by eerie.

Re: Tryin' 26 Jan 2023 17:27 #391269

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Eerie wrote on 25 Jan 2023 20:57:
Hi Kvoid HaModerator Shlita! Just want to thank you for keeping things in check. can I make a suggestion? There are all types of topic groups on the forum homepage. Maybe you can start a new group titled "toxic boich-svaros" and the threads that you need to you can just move there? Not lookin' for a fight with anyone, just suggestin', ouch, no need to, ouch, get physical:)

Is the Anything Goes Forum still running?
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There are tips, tools, and techniques, but there are no shortcuts.

Here's to our wives and girlfriends...may they never meet! ~ Groucho Marx
Optimism is the madness of insisting that all is well when we are miserable.-Voltaire
You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.- Abraham Lincoln
If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.- Yogi Berra
"I'm not dumb. I just have a command of thoroughly useless information." ~ Calvin
Last Edit: 28 Jan 2023 17:17 by jackthejew.

Re: Tryin' 26 Jan 2023 17:28 #391270

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Off the forum for now.
My Thread (Not for inspiration, but for random bits and pieces of my journey, as well as the inspiring responses of others: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/375514-Enough-is-Enough
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There are tips, tools, and techniques, but there are no shortcuts.

Here's to our wives and girlfriends...may they never meet! ~ Groucho Marx
Optimism is the madness of insisting that all is well when we are miserable.-Voltaire
You cannot escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today.- Abraham Lincoln
If you don't know where you are going, you might wind up someplace else.- Yogi Berra
"I'm not dumb. I just have a command of thoroughly useless information." ~ Calvin
Last Edit: 28 Jan 2023 17:15 by jackthejew.

Re: Tryin' 26 Jan 2023 17:55 #391271

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Eerie wrote on 25 Jan 2023 20:57:
Hi Kvoid HaModerator Shlita! Just want to thank you for keeping things in check, I mean I'm all for conversations and discussions, but it's ridiculous what sometimes happens. can I make a suggestion? There are all types of topic groups on the forum homepage. Maybe you can start a new group titled "nonsense and toxic boich-svaros" and the threads that you need to you can just move there? Not lookin' for a fight with anyone, just suggestin', ouch, no need to, ouch, get physical:)

It seems the thread has been reinstated...
guardyoureyes.com/forum/17-Balei-Battims-Forum/391250-MY-THREAD-ON-INTIMACY-DISAPPEARED#390916

Re: Tryin' 26 Jan 2023 23:46 #391284

I feel sorry that my thread caused pain for people,
it really hurt me,
I never want to hurt anyone by anyway, 
please, on behalf of everybody, take my apologies.
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Re: Tryin' 27 Jan 2023 02:58 #391293

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My dear friend, Yacoba, it's really ok. Don't fret! Just move on, it's all good. I don't think anybody felt you had bad intentions. It's all good, just keep posting and KEEP TRUCKING!
Feel free to say hi. My email is 1gimpelovitz@gmail.com

Re: Tryin' 10 Feb 2023 05:44 #391859

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My childhood is gone.

Dov stops posting
Skeptical is long goneTB12 retires (again)
Cordnoy retires (from posting)

I guess life just keeps moving.
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