Steve wrote on 16 Apr 2010 20:01:
Ok, so this is my second childhood today....
Meanwhile, i think Guarderino had something serious in mind for topical applications here, problem is it's after chatzos on friday and I'm so looking forward to shabbos i can't think straight.
OK, here's a question:
How do you handle it when you find your own child has been sneaking onto the home computer in the middle of the night to view porn? You have a filter, but he figured a way around it. And maybe he's really savvy, and found out how to use Privacy viewing in Explorer, which supposedly doesn't keep a history record that's easily viewable (but temps have given it away cuz they're NOT THAT savvy).
Would the answer be different based on how old they are?
maybe they are not addicted yet, just exposed and curious for more, and you want to stop them b4 it blows up to full-fledged addiction. you don't hit them with the whole SA 12 steps yet, do you? And you certainly don't admit you're an SA, right? And would you introduce them to GYE? - What if they go onto the forum and guess who you are??? What if you want to talk to them about the RID business, but they clam up & dont want to talk to YOU, to a THERAPIST, or anyone?
Now THAT"S what I call being in a Pickle!!
My advice would be to have a long heart to heart talk and admit that you too did this when you were young, and explain what you learned as you got older, how dangerous it is, how it takes us away from all ruchniyus, and we won't be able to have a good marriage, hold down a job, learn Torah, etc... and how you learned how to break free... Tell him about GYE and make a chavrusah with him on the Attitude handbook... And then maybe the GYE handbook too... Have him read the "horror" stories on
this page too.
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but spesking for myself i would use what ever would help but i am not sure there are that many teens here.
