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Hi everyone, hope you're all great. Maybe someone that understands the human psyche can give me a bit of an insight to something I face. Why is it that I am totally turned off by non frum women and disgusted by their hanhagos, but I have strong desires for frum, especially tzniyus women. I have a desire to get close to frum girls especially, but being a bochur it's just not an option. Any insights on why this is , and some advice would be really appreciated. Good Shabbos

Dr. Bentzion Sorotzkin drsorotzkin.com/ has an article about this cant find it now sorry

I go through the same thing, and I've felt that the reason for my self is two-fold

Firstly, The Tzanua ones are really more beautiful because it shows a self-respecting character, which is attractive in a more refined kind of way
Secondly, The non Tzanua ones are totally not an option while you know that theres a chance for the Tzanua ones, (looking at the girls and thinking hey maybe shes my shidduch)

----JKG