Hi All
After much self-diagnosis I have found something which may be common to many people here.
Several people have mentioned that, like me, they have passive aggressive tendencies.
I recently found something that link this to addictive behaviour.
Both of these are symptoms of White Knight Behaviour.
Do you find that you are in need of being rescued? Do you find that you are often in relationships with people that need rescuing?
Basically, the way I understand it, is as follows:
When children have difficult relationships with their primary caregivers – in my case I was unable to communicate my issues with my parents, my mother would always turn on the guilt and say things like “Are you saying I was a bad mother? I gave up everything for you and this is how you treat me.” So I found other outlets for my feelings.
One possible way of expressing “I need help” without making myself a burden on my parents was to find someone to rescue. I would have a relationship with someone that needs help, but then once they no longer needed help, things would end painfully.
This is the White Knight. Someone tries to rescue others in an attempt to either cover up or solve their own issues.
The White Knight can often either be someone with a history of addiction or someone who turns to addiction. The rescue relationship is often very dramatic and exciting and when it is over, the hero turns to something else to substitute the rush.
How many people here are using this addiction as an escape from painful relationships? I would be very surprised to hear that my case is unique.
I found the following blog very interesting:
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-white-knight-syndrome First article is at the bottom of the page.
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