I am also in GA as well as this site. Over 3 months ago my wife found out about the porn addiction. She knew I had a gambling problem, but I just stopped gambling never fixed it. Over the past 3 months I joined guard your eyes, and GA. My wife thinks she is fat, but I love her to pieces and I dont think that. Well she told me over 3 months ago if I ever gambled or went on these sites ever again she would leave me. So I went out and got the help I needed. I am feeling great, but she slipped she indulged in some food she didn't want. I told her that no matter what I will never leave you for your food cravings. And I will work hard for you to never leave me. Just one problem I have been having trouble with, I have been good during her past niddah stages, but this one has been really tough. I hope someone out there can give me some advice about the niddah stage and how to get through it. Thanks for listening.

Go to the married mens forum. I think they talk about these things there.

ilovemywife wrote on 31 Oct 2011 04:50:


Try not to check her out, whether you're on or off (except in the appropriate setting).  Don't let yourself dream about it during the day just because she's muttar.  And of course, keep your thoughts clean and your eyes guarded.

[note to Real Me-- I know you don't like married stuff on the main forum, and I've gone out of my way to keep this rated G, but I think it's important even for bochurim to know a little bit about what a wife is and is not for.]

Im not getting married.

I respect that. But hopefully you're not the only one reading this thread.

He is kidding. His mother is working on a shidduch right now for him. Im his bro.

Let's not hijack ilovemywife's thread

Ok, I wont. I want to clarify what I said. I am sick and tired. I don't want to be the last one, still not married. I am very afraid of commitment.

Real Me wrote on 01 Nov 2011 03:36:

Maybe try to diffrentiate between sex and lust. Sex when it is done in a kosher setting is wonderful.  Lust is what I would venture to say youve had more experience with is unfulfilling and empty, albeit superficially attractive.  Sex is a necessary component to a healthy marriage, lust which is one-sided and selfish is destructive.  Sex is about giving, lust is about taking.
Hatzlacha