Well, even though I couldn't fall asleep I didn't act out. I think posting helped, maybe I should try it more often...

good to hear

also a copy of the white book would be of help.

reading it - especially in those times - is beneficial

b'hatzlachah

That is great! For me, the feeling of starting off the week right rather than ruining Motzei Shabbos, right after a great shabbos, is something worth remembering.

I do have a copy of the white book, I'll try to keep it in mind. Thanks!

What is the white book?

PS. I am seeing my therapist tomorrow.

Hi R76, if you need to speak to anyone, give me a call or send me a PM... Big book / White book is for Sex Anonymous addiction group... I didnt need to get to that point, although I might try calling the ones offered on GYE, to strengthen fences.

Therapy first is what I recommend.

Also, if you dont like therapist (for objective reasons) or if you feel they are not understanding where we come from, change them.

Ironically, my therapist is a Woman, of course very unattractive. She practices Gestalt Therapy.

It is crucial to find a safe and nurturing therapist.

hope i can help.

Thank G-d I did not fall -- even if I was about to fall for a long time.

I have talked to my therapist recently. He does help me greatly.

Is there a Jewish forum for general issues such as depression? There is a yeshiva forum, but it is premoderated and I do not fit there.

Wow, R76 (really I am writing to you, not the GYE moniker, at all) - I think it is great that you are spending time w your therapist. You know how I have been writing you about that since the beginning. Boruch Hashem you have taken the initiative and I have a lot to learn from your example. Thanks!

Rather than entertaining ideas of judging whether he is the right one for you now, I sincerely hope that you immerse yourself in the therapy and whatever work he is giving you to do with G-d's help between sessions. People who need the help the most, are most often the ones who waste most of their time judging the therapist, rather than actually doing the work they desperately need to do. Same goes for a Rebbi.

We think too damn much.

Continued hatzlocha dear chaver!

- Dov

Dov wrote:


Thank G-d I will see my therapist sometimes -- at most once in a month and a half.

my problem is with lust not sex or porn

I have been thinking erotic thoughts all the time recently -- which is my reaction to very stressful situation. I hope I do not fall.

Can anyone tell me about foods/medicines which reduce the drive?

Try to keep busy ...just remember the thoughts are part of a chemical change ....like any addiction....the chemicals wont cure your situation ....only delay your response ....if you want you can tell me whats bothering you on pm and i will answer as soon as i can ....

We are all (well most of the current world) going through rough times

Friends, i need help!!


Im by my parents, open internet and tv,
Im going to be alone the next days, i had now a slip, i dont know how to stay clean the next 4 days

HELP!

Have you ever read the white book?
Have you accepted that youre probably not too much in control?
If not, perhaps give it a try.
If yes, then keep going forward; try to focus on the moment before you...not the four days.

If I would look at the rest of life before me (who knows how long), I'd plan my fall for tonight.

b'hatzlachah

Thanks cordroy, i fled to mincha...
I read the BB, but somehow when im in the struggle, all the beautifull tipps disappear!

Thanks, i think the next time i will use the chatroom , so i can get instant contact

Thanks again!!!!!!