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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 10 May 2013 09:43 #207016

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yup that's why we are all on this forum!
but i think we just gotta get educated a little more and internalize the consequences to our actions.
good luck!

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 10 May 2013 20:22 #207048

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And you don't think that up until now we haven't internalized the consequences of our actions or aren't educated enough about the issue?

(Also, for me getting "educated" on the consequences of my actions in Olam Haba or in the malachei chavala they create doesn't help me fight my yetzer hara when I'm tempted to fall.)

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 10 May 2013 20:54 #207052

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alright so how how are to stop falling and or fighting this temptation daily. it's not supposed to be this hard. just gotta get over it and grow up and get it out of our lives.
its time for a new beginning.
Shavuot is coming and we're all getting married to Hashem.
And He knows what we do.
its time to stop now!
lets get some new hobbies!
thanks
YairA

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 10 May 2013 21:09 #207056

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YairA wrote:
it's not supposed to be this hard.

Who said that it's not supposed to be hard? It's very hard, but there are things we can do to make it "easier".

The shulchan Aruch says (paraphrasing) to stay very far away from women because once someone is ragil in it, it is HARD to stop.

But, many here have done it. So it CAN be done. You can too. Usually we need different tactics though. You can try really hard to bang in a nail with a screwdriver, but it won't work very well. We need to choose the right tools for the job. There are tools aplenty here. If the tools you used until now are not working, switch tools.

Just some food for thought.
Last Edit: 10 May 2013 21:10 by gibbor120.

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 10 May 2013 21:45 #207057

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ok i agree..

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 12 May 2013 09:29 #207088

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so whats up??
ill be on tomorrow.

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 May 2013 03:05 #207132

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I'd read a lot of what Dov has to say, he really helps with attaining a proper attitude.

Of course, different things work for different people.

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 May 2013 17:02 #207141

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Gosh what a downer of a morning now everything's a major trigger u don't know if I could fight this

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 13 May 2013 19:44 #207150

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You don't have to fight this. Hashem will.

Remember, the downer of a morning also came from Hashem.

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 19 May 2013 07:14 #207325

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i'm not about to fall!!

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 19 May 2013 08:10 #207328

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i actually like that post.
we should have a place for that too, as long as there isn't an ayin horah.
we could call it the "hodu lashem ki tov thread"

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 19 May 2013 10:32 #207344

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i created the thread in the torah and chizuk approach titled hodu lashem ki tov! shkoach!!

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 22 May 2013 08:35 #207529

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I know I can't, so I get real help. And it works one day at a time - and life is quite good for some years, now b"H!
"Off the 18-wheeler and fine on this tricycle!", "I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons...and you are probably the same."

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 22 May 2013 23:30 #207571

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what are you talking about?

Re: I'm about to FALL!! 06 Jun 2013 23:45 #208563

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hey everyone! i am on my 6th day clean, so far i havent made it a week but this time i will!! throw me all the chizzuk you can, i am gonna need it;)
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