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TOPIC: losing my way 7336 Views

Re: losing my way 29 Jun 2009 07:38 #7603

  • andsm1
i havent been here in a while simply because i didnt have a computer

i just reuploaded my entire computer from scratch

i might go into computer technician work lol

i have been doing rlatively wll in the last month

not one major incident

although its slightly easier now

though my emunah is in serious danger

by the way gue guy i spoke to the guy you told me about and ended up meeting a nice fellow in tzfat who prtty much told me the only ppl who can answer my questions are posskim lik r auerbach

though i dont know how to aproach ppl lik that

oh and i moved locations a while back and as we in israel say משנה מקום משנה מזל

dont be fooled my hebrew isnt very good
which is why i have a hard time approaching my local posskim

back to what i was saying my emunah is having alot of trouble because i like joab from the taanach see evil people (and believe me these are evil people like a man once said "the evil the runs in this world runs on a level we cant imagine") while good, selfless people have all inds of problems and people with known disabilities are challenged within their disability by lifes problems

even if you say "but there is the nxt world and reward for the suffering" i quote
rabban yochanan

"לא הם ולא שכרם 

not them nor their reward

and because i am constantly reminded that the world we live in does not really allow us to live in accordance with the torah so much and that heterim only make things harder sometimes

what antiochos tried to accomplish the jews are doing to themselves in spades

ill nd here for now for a response
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Re: losing my way 29 Jun 2009 12:19 #7618

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Chavakuk said that the whole Torah is based on the ONE Mitzva of Emunah. So tell me please, if that is the entire Torah's purpose, and the whole reason Hashem created the world and hid himself so well was only to teach us Emunah - DID YOU THINK IT WOULD BE EASY MY FRIEND?? 
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Re: losing my way 29 Jun 2009 15:50 #7643

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I saw in the sefer Shomer Emunim that:

The Emunah that our forefathers had, we can't even begin to fathom it. The revelation that they had of Hashem is way beyond our grasp...BUT,

Emunah P'shuta... this is our yerusha that we still have, and will never lose.

Emunah P'shuta- I don't understand anything, everything is hidden before me, BUT... Hashem is in control. Period!!!  I don't need to see how Hashem is in control because....I "know" it.
I don't need to feel that Hashem is in control because...I "know" it to be true.

Emunah P'shuta- "knowing" that Hashem is running EVERYTHING inspite of my lack of seeing it, feeling it, hearing it........it!!

No Chachmos are needed for this type of Emunah. It works even in the deepest depths of every kind of golus. Everyone of us here on this forum have a level of this Emunah P'shuta otherwise.....we would not be here. This means you too!!!
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Re: losing my way 14 Jul 2009 11:22 #8736

  • andsm1
anyone got ideas on how to use k9 without it shutting down my computers net system and me having to completely hack it to death to access simple email

also things ar going relatively well though i have alot of ground to cover

i have lapses in the not loking at wrong things area from time to time but are very brief and at this point very uncomfortable

i have had few to none lapses in othr areas

and my learning is up alittle ..........well at least what i can do from the computer as i almost never have time and i am still not a chavruta to anyone

i still fear retribution for my past mistakes and still attempt to equall myself through tikunim or corrections but im sure basic life suffering will help m in this as well as my diagnosis is depression

anyway bbs
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Re: losing my way 14 Jul 2009 11:59 #8742

  • battleworn
"Me" posted this:


What you really need to do is to set it to the "custom" settings. Here you check all of the boxes that you want to block. Don't check the "email" box.

But you need to be honest when doing this. It is not enough to just check the "p..." box. You must check everything that can lead to "p..." such as people's private" blogs", "private pages" etc. etc. Also, check under the "advanced" button, the "use the new Beta version".

If you don't this, than k9 will prove not to be so effective.  I have tons of experience with it!



You will need to check the "forums" box. There are plenty of forums dealing with you know what. So, then you will need to go to the "URL exceptions box". There you can "add" the GYE forums, add the urls for both of the sites, as well as the forum.

andsm1, the greatest tikun is to serve Hashem b'simcha!
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Re: losing my way 14 Jul 2009 18:24 #8777

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Thanks Battleworn. I couldn't have said it better!
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Re: losing my way 14 Jul 2009 20:18 #8787

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me wrote on 29 Jun 2009 15:50:

I saw in the sefer Shomer Emunim that:

The Emunah that our forefathers had, we can't even begin to fathom it. The revelation that they had of Hashem is way beyond our grasp...BUT,

Emunah P'shuta... this is our yerusha that we still have, and will never lose.

Emunah P'shuta- I don't understand anything, everything is hidden before me, BUT... Hashem is in control. Period!!!  I don't need to see how Hashem is in control because....I "know" it.
I don't need to feel that Hashem is in control because...I "know" it to be true.

Emunah P'shuta- "knowing" that Hashem is running EVERYTHING inspite of my lack of seeing it, feeling it, hearing it........it!!

No Chachmos are needed for this type of Emunah. It works even in the deepest depths of every kind of golus. Everyone of us here on this forum have a level of this Emunah P'shuta otherwise.....we would not be here. This means you too!!!


What he said. There really is nothing more to say. For me, this is the only "full measure".  Thank-you!
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Re: losing my way 14 Jul 2009 20:43 #8789

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Sholoim Aleichem Reb Dov!

Welcome Back, you were missed by everyone.

I hope you are well rested from your vacation, so that you can get to work.

Your Professional Help & Support is very much needed.
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Re: losing my way 16 Jul 2009 19:28 #8960

  • andsm1
i think this topic of mine is gonna need to be redone

i am sorry i wasted all of your time

this has been an exprience
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Re: losing my way 16 Jul 2009 20:09 #8967

  • battleworn
You didn't waste anyone's time, we all love you and we all love conversing with you!
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Re: losing my way 17 Jul 2009 00:50 #8979

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andsm1 wrote on 16 Jul 2009 19:28:

i think this topic of mine is gonna need to be redone

i am sorry i wasted all of your time

this has been an exprience


You are right! It has been an experience being part of another addicts life - please stay in touch! With love and respect for another yid who shares the same illness I have - Dov
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"
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