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WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 13:34 #118542

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We all have those moments when we really feel sick of the whole thing. The problem is those moments are so elusive that they just disappear. So let's get them down for all to see after all this is the real me. Not the guy that loves wasting time looking at pictures of n.. kd women.
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 13:46 #118544

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I hate p-rn it makes me feel sick because I feel there is a wall between me and the rest of the world. I am hiding something. It makes me feel that i am different than my friends and family.
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 14:35 #118552

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So you don't really hate porn, you just hate how it makes you feel afterwards. If you were the only person in the world and you had no "rest of world" to put up a wall between, and had no friends or family to feel different about,

Would you still hate porn?


I haven't looked at porn in a long time, but I can't imagine hating it (Who knows maybe one day?)
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 15:05 #118557

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Dear Me3: why do you hate p***?
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 15:28 #118562

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Oh dear..
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 15:31 #118564

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well, if someone gives a reason and its not good enough for you, fair enough, but then give a valid credential reason
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 15:38 #118565

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Me3 wrote on 12 Sep 2011 14:35:

I haven't looked at porn in a long time, but I can't imagine hating it (Who knows maybe one day?)
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 16:06 #118571

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I'm with Me3. I love p**n. That's why I'm here. Maybe one day...
Efshi, elo ma a'ase shAvinu shBashomaim oiser li.
Baby steps.
If the road is pulling you down, it's a sign that you are going uphill, so just press harder on the gas!

Have a great day - unless, of course, you made other plans.
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 16:16 #118576

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machlokes hamforshim, what loe sachmod is, some say its a standalone issur, the ramban says, that if you are mkabel not to steal, or commit adultry, then of course you wont desire someone elses goods or wife, because you know that its unachievable, as hashem doesnt let me, so i dont even crave for it
the same as you wont crave for some treasures which are in a distant star galaxy, bacause you know its pointless, therefore your mind doesnt even desire it
back to us in 2011
yes my body my beheimeh my y"h wants to watch p***, but my neshomo knows thats hashem doesnt allow, like pork, it might be tasty, i am so used thats its a no no, that i dont even desire it, i have to work on me until this will be the SAME
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 18:40 #118592

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I love lusting.  And lust is much more than just p*rn.  Let me tell you what I hate.

In life there will be battles.  But when it comes to this, I get to pick which one.

While in active addiction, I looked wantonly at everyone and everything, and let my mind wander to wherever I could get a quick fix.  The final result was often a porn-fest (or fantasy-fest), giving myself ever-increasing doses of the drug.  The battle then was against a head full of images that teased/tormented me and always wanted more.  The battle was inevitably lost.  There was never a sound battle plan -- now I fight, now I feed it, now I fight again.  Insanity.  That, I hate.

Now B"H in recovery without a fall for over two years, the battle is different, practiced, less mind-consuming.  The battle is to choose to avoid the drug at all times.  Which means not taking even a first glance when out, not looking at magazines, newspaper ads, pretty faces everywhere, TV, movies.  Stuff that's considered normal; and hard to give up.  And when lustful thoughts and images come knocking, I react immediately by davening, asking Hashem to take my lust.

That's the battle.  But that's the only battle.  Because I moved the battlefront to a point of my choosing, deep behind enemy lines, it is much easier to prevail consistently.  The battle now is also not to become complacent just because I didn't fall yesterday.  To remain vigilant.  Every day.

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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 19:01 #118593

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Well said Alex

Which brings me to the following thought.

I love...

Going home at the end of the day without feeling guilty, and torn.
the ability to look the other way
the ability to slip but not fall
to talk to the opposite gender without lusting
To thank Hashem (In Modim and elsewhere) for another day of control
Being able to only think of and about my wife

In short I love You HAshem, I know I'm so not worthy of any of this,  but You in your infinite kindness have seen to bestow Your goodness upon me for yet one more day.

And for this I am grateful.
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 19:36 #118604

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you love it you hate it

it makes no differrence

hating it never stopped anyone
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 19:59 #118615

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bardichev wrote on 12 Sep 2011 19:36:

you love it you hate it

it makes no differrence

hating it never stopped anyone

That's why we all jumped on this thread, to make sure we don't get carried away with hate.
Alex and Me3, I just gave you guys virtual hugs and cried. Ditto, ditto, ditto.
Baby steps.
If the road is pulling you down, it's a sign that you are going uphill, so just press harder on the gas!

Have a great day - unless, of course, you made other plans.
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 20:01 #118616

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obormottel wrote on 12 Sep 2011 19:59:

bardichev wrote on 12 Sep 2011 19:36:

you love it you hate it

it makes no differrence

hating it never stopped anyone

That's why we all jumped on this thread, to make sure we don't get carried away with hate.
Alex and Me3, I just gave you guys virtual hugs and cried. Ditto, ditto, ditto.


IPLAYED GAMES WITH MY Y"H FOR YEARS

NOW WE DON'T PLAT GAMES ANY MORE

HATING P8RN IS STILL PLAYING GAMES

NUFF SAID
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Re: WHY I HATE P*RN 12 Sep 2011 20:17 #118619

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i think i have to be honest but at this point in my life i do like porn but hopefully  soon with a lot of work that will change :-[
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