Also I'm trying to figure out if I can benefit from meetings if I know from the get-go that only some elements of the 12 steps and attitudes work for me and that in general I need a softer more individual approach at this point in my life (I have crazy life circumstances that left some deep emotional stuff...)
Is there room to deviate from what the groups preach or will the groups allow me to disagree on some parts and only use what works for me??