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Re: i fell and need to begin 08 Aug 2011 08:26 #113906

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I know what it's like to be there.
With only one thing on your mind and all you want to do is look at pictures.

What I did was download the handbook and put it on my desktop.
I would read from it when I got into that mood.
It really helped me break free from the cycle of pain.

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Re: i fell and need to begin 08 Aug 2011 10:16 #113915

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Sabbaba keep dem posts coming.How is your life besides your sexual thoughts?
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Re: i fell and need to begin 08 Aug 2011 13:04 #113926

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Without it, life is sababa.. (also with this the life is sababa...)
Even when I'm not on the computer and not on the street I think about them
The first week was difficult and I begin again to be depression.
Why is this happening to me? why I think about women all day, I'll stop?
Hope to succeed even though it seems very hard
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Re: i fell and need to begin 08 Aug 2011 17:18 #113960

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i feel for you it called healing pains, it hurts but as time goes youll feel better... hazlocha just daven to hashem!
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Re: i fell and need to begin 08 Aug 2011 17:29 #113964

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pain is fear leaving the body
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Re: i fell and need to begin 09 Aug 2011 08:05 #114038

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Lately I'm thinking to myself: What? Whole life I would be without it? Strange feeling
I feel I must do one more time (like every time ..)
I feel like I need to do this and that now it's time and age
And after the marriage is over, it's true?
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Re: i fell and need to begin 09 Aug 2011 11:03 #114039

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what marriage?
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Re: i fell and need to begin 09 Aug 2011 14:05 #114048

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SABABA, are you DOING anything about this feeling of yours?

Are you following any of the suggestions you have gotten from all the folks here?

One thing someone told me here, which took a while for it to sink in, but was one of the most important pieces of information I picked up here, was "STOP LIVING IN THE PROBLEM; START LIVING IN THE SOLUTION."

Self-loathing doesn't make the problem go away; it makes it worse.

--Elyah
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 07:02 #114502

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mechazek I asked if after marriage, it'll stop?
Accidentally I saw a woman not wearing and I thought - I could no longer and I looked more at that woman
I thought about it all day and I had a 'wet dream'
If I didn't have'wet dream' I was already fall.
That discourage me and I don't know if I can
Need help - my brothers
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 09:37 #114504

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famous statement of twersky: MARRIAGE IS NOT A HOSPITAL
start now, keep strong, day after day, no exceptions, if you notice something triggering, just look away immidetly, and dont think about it, remember, you can allways ask hashem for help, as he is waiting for your call, chazak
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 11:21 #114509

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sababa you are amazing,even though you fell you still post you dont go and hide with your yetezer harah in the corner.Great work.
I got married and it got worse I did much worse things.Dont wait for marriage.I think the reason is because if we look at porn or masterbate we just want to please ourselves.So then yo also look at your wife to please you and you have no real respect,you become very selfish atzmaee.
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 14:12 #114512

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I must admit guys I wanted to fall today and I started doing, but I read what you wrote and that helped me
But it's still hard for me and I feel I have to do only 'once' more
I think the Nshimm all day and I want to masterbate
I don't know what to do with myself
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 15:04 #114514

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I fell now ..
I don't know what to do
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 16:09 #114516

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Eye.nonymous wrote on 09 Aug 2011 14:05:

SABABA, are you DOING anything about this feeling of yours?

Are you following any of the suggestions you have gotten from all the folks here?

One thing someone told me here, which took a while for it to sink in, but was one of the most important pieces of information I picked up here, was "STOP LIVING IN THE PROBLEM; START LIVING IN THE SOLUTION."

Self-loathing doesn't make the problem go away; it makes it worse.

--Elyah
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Re: i fell and need to begin 14 Aug 2011 18:39 #114526

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It is ok you are ok take a deep breath(you can cry a little its fine).We know you really want to stop this.
What happened it might be a good idea to share what happened from the begining untill you fell.what you were thinking about and what you actually did.
What are you actually doing about it know?I am not trying to be hard on you just to help you get out a little.I feel for you and respect you so much for the efforts to stop.
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