Helpfyi wrote on 21 Jul 2011 18:21:


I did pretty nicely in the place where i usually fall, i say i scored about an 90%, for me that's great bec i usually score around 0% so I'm happy, how is it going for all of you???

Helpfyi wrote on 25 Jul 2011 12:58:


Thank you for your support. 

How we all doing?? I'm doing great! 

If we haven't done so good till now how about jumping in for the 9 days??!!??

I had a fall last Thursday, after lasting just 3 clean days from previous fall. On Thursday, the urge was not strong, but was very persistent, could not stop myself. My Y”H is a little mamzer, knows exactly what to “say”: Last week I find out that 2 people know, but not very close to are getting divorced. Kind of hit me, I am older single, when you at that stage you hussle hard to get married, then you never know what you are getting yourself into. Looking at site there a lot of unsatisfied married people, previously I was hoping that once one gets married whole porn thing goes away, but it does not seem to be the case. So kind of either way one is screwed; if you are frum single you getting no benefits &  if married it could also suck, so my Y’H telling me “that you got some unmet needs bro which you could easier satisfied w/porn.  “

Motzei Shabbos was tough, but managed to get myself distracted with TV. Sunday so far is going tough, but it’s unfortunately not over yet. I am thinking about maybe taking some natural medicine to lower my urges. 

hang in there, don't get discouraged by the fact that some people get divorced. look how many people have grest marriages! there is something to look forward to.  It cam be the most pleasurable thing if done right and you should strive to stay clean in order to get there. Porn will not get you anywhere just depressed etc...l

As far as meds i would talk you someone who knows about this before doing it.

hazlocha!

Helpfyi wrote on 01 Aug 2011 13:11:


Thank you for your support.

Rabbi Nachman teaches us that if we guard our bris it will help us to find the right zivug who will help us in avodas Hashem. Be mekabel now to do whatever it takes to become a shomer bris and you will find the right one. My wife is a great help in all areas of avodas Hashem including shmiras habris. Most couples do not get divorced and this Forum has an official guide book to staying happily married : The Garden of Peace by Rabbi Shalom Arush.

I guess I'm late in the game, as tisha bav begins tomorrow night. But its never too late to start guardng one's eyes...

Back on Track wrote on 07 Aug 2011 23:07:


bingo!!!!!!!!

Blind Beggar wrote on 07 Aug 2011 21:20:


where do you get that book from and who is r shalom arush?

Back on Track wrote on 07 Aug 2011 23:07:


agreed! how about till rosh hashona?!

Helpfyi wrote on 08 Aug 2011 03:00:

most seforim stores have it
you can also ordrer at feldheim.com or eichlers.com or amazon.com

R' Shalom Arush is the head of the Chut Shel Chesed Yeshiva in Yerushalayim, a Breslover, a talmid of R' Levi Yitzchok Bender, among others, and author of many sefarim that have been translated into english (and other languages), some of them becoming best-sellers (Garden of Emuna and Garden of Peace)

ZemirosShabbos wrote on 08 Aug 2011 16:17:


thanks! i will get it!

I just saw that the daily emailed asked people to join my thread from last year. It hit me that maybe i should keep my own thread! Come on guys its the 3 weeks its hot, we have all been struggling with this lets be mecazik to bring the geualh! I'm in for this come all lets join!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So....did you get that garden of peace book?

Oh....and how are u doing, chabibi?