my wife is attracted to her best friend- did anyone ever hear of this?

This is unfortunately not unusual today, especially in light of societies complete perversion. It is known that even straight women who are exposed to pornography on the internet, can develop an attraction for other women. I don't know if this is the case with your wife, or if she just naturally feels this pull. In any event, it is perhaps no less common than men being attracted to other men. I have heard of cases where the wife's SSA (Same Sex Attraction) ended up destroying the marriage. She should be warned that it has the potential to destroy the marriage and she should be careful not to act on her feelings. Just like when men are attracted to 'married women', as immoral as it is, we are programmed to have these feelings. In the same way, some people find that their brain is programmed to have SSA feelings... The bottom line is though, we DON'T ACT ON IT.

Have your wife read this article from Arutz 7: "How I almost Became a Lesbian".

In case you want to know Judaism's stance on this, see Rambam, Hilchos Issurei biya, Perek 21, 8-9:



Also, some of the articles and links on this page might also be helpful for her to read. Although they are geared mainly towards men with SSA, many of the links and articles can apply to a woman with SSA too.

May Hashem be with you.

If a psychologist can help her I would suggest you ask her to see one 

I find even just the topic heading triggering

I just wanted to say that it can have the reverse effect on her if she does see the wrong professional.

There have been people on this forum who have had attractions to other guys and it went away.  For some of them it was obsession that was translated wrong and when asked point blank if they wanted anything really sexual they sort of fell out of even the attraction. For others it was an actual lust for them,that also went away after marriage.

I would definitely never ask her to see someone unless she feels that she's freaked out about herself.

In todays society people think that men will find them more attractive if they are attracted to other women.

Decide or talk out where she's coming from.

If its real,just make sure she knows where halacha stands on it (in a nonthreatening way) and wait and watch if it gets worse or better.

Ultimately it may not be that different from a guy finding another woman attractive as long as she knows.

Read the jonah website. There are different opinions on this.