Hi everyone who wants to join me in taking extra care not to gaze a other women on shvous, women tend to dress up fancy and it is very hard to not look but I'm  gonna do it ! WHO IS JOINING ME!!!

I'm in. I hereby accept a kabala bli neder to make an extra effort this shavuos to be makpid on teharas einaim.

great now i'm not alone

COME ON GUYS YOU CAN DO IT JOIN!!!!!!

PLEASE REPORT BACK AFTER HOW IT WENT. AND REMEMBER IF WE FALL ONCE THEN WE CAN STILL GET BACK ON OUR FEET. TAKE IT ONE LADY AT A TIME!!

Helpfyi wrote on 07 Jun 2011 02:25:


Why did you have to remind me?

what/how did i remind you of?? i just want to make an extra effort to watch our eyes on this holy day. why dont you join!!

Helpfyi wrote on 07 Jun 2011 13:05:


Right now, I am trying to see women as normal people, not lust objects to be avoided (unless they are specifically triggering).

Jester

You didn't mean that did you? You intend to look at women so you can work on not viewing them as objects?

Helpfyi

I'm in.

Incidentally Chazal were very aware of this issue because they instituted B'HAB after Yom Tov for this very reason (Although not after Shavous).

count me in
thanks for taking this initiative, Helpfyi
have a great yom tov

As Me3 mentioned, this is precisely why B'HAB was instituted after the longer Yomim Tovim.

So, especially if we don't fast on B'HAB, and, even more so if we don't even say Selichos, we need to, at least, make sure that the purpose of the Takana doesn't apply to us!

Me3 wrote on 07 Jun 2011 14:50:


Chas V'shalom!

It's just harder not to look when I'm thinking "don't look".  I take no issue at all, whatsoever, with being extra cautious.  It's just a matter of phrasing.

Ach, I'm in a bad mood today

Edit:
Here is what I mean...  If I say "don't look at women", I'll notice all the women, and feel bad because I fail.  If I say "if I catch myself looking, I must look away, or think X", then I won't notice them, but if I do, I'll deal with it, and feel good for succeeding.

Maybe I'm just too philosophical and theoretical today

Maybe I'm just weird like that.

Just making sure.  I've rationalized far worse actions in my day. 

Cheer up, YH loves when your in a bad mood it gives him a distinct advantage.

count me in!  there are two particular people I have to be careful with, so I'll have this in mind instead.  time to reprogramme and rehypnotize my hypnotized mind.  or should I say hip-not-eyes-ed.

I;m so happy that all you are in with me and i'm sorry jester if i said it in a way which you thought was a trigger. i really like the bahab thought and I'm all ready to go today and yesterday i already started, yesterday i went the whole day with out gazing at a women!! if i can do it you can forsure can!!!

Survived two weddings recently.  They used to send me over the top.  Positioned myself at the chupa so I couldn't see them.

I'm in for Shavuos.  I'm a lifer.

great alex ( ijust wrote in the other fourm to join me but you did already!!
Every one keep this in mind!!!!
"The Be’er Mayim Chayim says that in the army, when they would want to test a great soldier to
see if he's fit to be a general, they would put him on a wild horse that was impossible not be
thrown off of. Although no one could stay on that horse, the test was only to see how fast he
would get back up after he was brutally thrown down and wounded."

So the satten will test you but you got to get back up like a lion!!!!