Hello Chevra
I have not been active for months
I have moved up a few miles from Key West. I am not at zero mile.

Here is my question and I need real help. I have a good friend we are each others accountability partners. He is doing terrible. I am at a total loss. I watched it for two weeks. I sent him an email that we need to talk mano-a-mano.I sent him some words of encouragement. He thanked me.
We meet often he shows no shame or remorse. Never broached the topic. He knows I know what's going on.

Please this is a seriuos topic. Please respond with constructive help.(Leave all jokes in the having fun thread)

Key West (mile 3)

is it possible that someone else is using his computer and viewing stuff? co-worker, family, friend?

if it's him then as far as i can see it's great to help someone stay out of the garbage. but if someone WANTS to stay in the garbage there is precious little we can do. and sometimes there comes a point when we need to do a quick Serenity Prayer and admit that it's not within our power to change it.
just be there for him, if and when he needs it. otherwise just move on. daven for him. but don't obsess about it. it's not your job to shlep him out of the muck if he doesn't want you to do that.

my two cents

The farthest I've ever been is Islamorada.  We went there to watch the sunset.  Best part of my vacation in Florida.  Wish I could go back. 

This guy sounds like he needs you to be there for him, but as an accountability partner you are not someone that would cause him enough shame.  If your wife also knows this guy, maybe make your wife his accountability partner.  The point of an accountability partner is to have someone that you would be absolutely ashamed to have discover what you have been doing.  I found this out after having my first accountability partner have no effect on me whatsoever (OK maybe a little bit, but not much).