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The following five thoughts helped interrupt my out-of-balance thinking and behavior. Practiced with honesty and integrity, they can allow you to be free of unwanted addictions. 

This article is reprinted from Fortify.com: Copyright Disclaimer Addiction teaches us to rationalize and justify. Over time we get really good at making excuses for ourselves to act out and we keep buying into our own lies. There is no end to what a porn addict can come u...

The accusations levied against Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacey, Louis CK and others for sexual assault, harassment and abuse have created righteous outrage and concerns that “sex addiction treatment” is being used to excuse their offensive behavior. It is critical to und...

Breathing, Counting, and a Memory… This very simple brain exercise has changed my life. I struggled with porn addiction for a very long time, and I use many tools to prevent going back to that life but this is something that never fails me. Internet porn addiction is argu...

We all have something in our brain called the “reward pathway.” Its function is to reward us with a chemical called dopamine when we do certain things that give us pleasure. When one watches pornography his brain gets flooded with a really high level of dopamine. A heal...

Porn is addictive for the same reason that many drugs are addictive. Neuroscientist Dr. William Struthers explains how the brain reacts to viewing pornography repeatedly: As men fall deeper into the mental habit of fixating on these images, the exposure to them create...

Triggers: The Why Matters In order how to understand how triggers work and how to avoid them, the larger question of the why a person is triggered must be addressed. A preoccupation with pornography might begin as just that--a preoccupation/bad habit--but it can easily mo...

Imagine a drug so powerful it can destroy a family simply by distorting a man's perception of his wife. Picture an addiction so lethal it has the potential to render an entire generation incapable of forming lasting marriages and so widespread that it produces more annual...

After the alcohol and drugs are gone, what’s next? The path of recovery, followed closely by the gifts of sobriety, may seem like a hard sell at first. I remember that very day when I was being asked to choose between the comforts and certainty of active addiction, or c...

I struggle. I am not the only woman who does. Maybe you do, maybe you know someone that does. I was convinced that I was the only one. I thought I stood alone and that sucked. I was so ashamed of myself and I felt like I was hiding all of the time. The struggle is real,...

Pushed down a hallway that I was never supposed to be in, pushed further away from life, happiness, fulfillment, reality, toward a place of dark twisted things, rotting dreams and fake smiles, tortured screams and wild inhuman laughter, echoing faintly. There are roo...

The Goals of this presentation are: For Educators to be able to- 1) Differentiate compulsive behavior (serious) suggesting professional intervention from a subclinical (not as serious) issue 2) Identify a great variety of behaviors in which this problem can appear or man...

When one struggles with pornography, triggers are everywhere, especially in the hypersexualized media all around us. It often takes just a simple image to set off the chemical reaction in the brain, which first develops by looking at pornography. Sadly, simply turning o...

When we are born, we are conscious only of ourselves, we are the universe. We perceive little other than our basic needs, and if these needs are met we are content. As our consciousness expands, we become aware of the world outside ourselves. We discover that there are...

Drawing from research on addiction in neuroscience, psychology, and clinical practice, the following list identifies several key behavioral patterns associated with addiction: Source: tommaso79/Shutterstock 1. Unsuccessful attempts to quit. Addicts often express ...

Sex addicts new to recovery typically have little to no idea how to define sexual sobriety. Sometimes they worry that sexual sobriety is the same as chemical sobriety, where permanently abstaining is the ultimate goal. Many say that if that is the case, they’ll stick wi...

Denial is a form of distorted thinking. In fact, it is a masterpiece of distorted thinking. Breaking through denial marks the beginning of addiction treatment. This is just as true for sexual addiction and behavioral addictions generally as it is for chemical dependency...

Based on both clinical experience and research, I can tell you that sexual addiction is rarely a standalone issue. One large-scale survey of self-identified sex addicts found that 69% of heterosexual men, 79% of heterosexual women, and 80% of homosexual men also had a s...