The Library

Porn Addiction Statistics

By obormottel
Here’s a question that I received, “Do you have any porn addiction statistics you can give me? I am working on a class project and would like more information. Answer: During the past few years I have been gathering data from individuals who are trapped in pornography. I...
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Is free pornography destroying our brains?

By obormottel
Schoolkids today are watching porn like never before. It's free, it's instant and it's having a devastating effect. 3D has spoken to porn users and porn addicts, as well as a sex educator and a top international scientist who say this new type of porn can ...
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Cure for Porn Addiction

By obormottel
Perhaps you've heard the news. Iceland is gearing up to ban Internet pornography. It won't only be a crime, it would be straight-up impossible to look at porn with government filters in place. Soon, your first step to freedom could be to move to Iceland. I've priced tic...
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90 day victory and the way to get there.

By obormottel
"Dear Nathan! Congratulations! That is beautiful. May Hashem be with you! In my opinion, your struggles in SA had nothing to do with their definition of sobriety, but rather with your sponsor. A sponsor should not consider lusting to be a fall unless the sponsee acted ...
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What about Disclosure during Shidduchim?

By obormottel
Someone wrote to GYE: I have been sober for almost ten months, Baruch Hashem, and I have been attending SA meetings for almost a year. I got permission from my addiction therapist to begin dating at six months of sobriety, and I began a few months ago, right after Succos...
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25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction

By obormottel
The porn industry is worth $97 billion worldwide and it is estimated that 68% of men watch porn at least once a week - although many experts believe that figure is conservative. While there’s little doubt that porn is ubiquitous, the issue that is often overlooked is the...
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Combatting the Stress of Porn Addiction

By obormottel
Porn was our escape. A destructive and co-dependent escape, but an escape nonetheless. When hard times came into our lives, we would dodge them and go running for a fix rather than dealing with them head on. The release we felt from using porn would numb us to the bumps ...
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Are You in Touch with Reality?

By obormottel
Accepting and living in reality is the foundation of the recovery process. When we have faith in a Power greater than ourselves, we accept the fact that we are no longer in control and that what is happening for us at this time is in our Higher Power’s hands, not ours. W...
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Top 4 Porn Addiction Myths: Q&A

By obormottel
Q: Do only people with “Addictive Personalities” have a problem with porn? A: So there is still a lot of debate on this one. A recent study by Simone Kühn, and Jürgen Gallinat, found that frequent porn users had a significant reduction in grey matter in areas of the bra...
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5 Reasons You’ll Never Get Sober (And Remain Miserable)

By obormottel
Getting sober is hard. It’s a very strange phenomenon. With all the pain, heartbreak, trouble with the law, family turmoil and ill health that goes hand in hand with addiction – in some ways it is easier to continue using drugs. Getting sober requires action. It requir...
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Relapse is all about repeating shame messages

By obormottel
“I’ve had a wonderfully healthy childhood, how did I get this thing called 'sex addiction'?” is one of the most common questions asked of sex addiction professionals. The truth is, according to Dr. Patrick Carnes, sex addiction is not about sex. It is about core feeling...
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The Twelve Steps: A Spiritual Program

By obormottel
Retorno.org | Introduction My friend was sitting with me, and he said once and for all that God had done for him what he could not have done for himself. His human desire had failed, and doctors had said that he was incurable. And then something lifted him...
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How to Find a Sponsor?

By obormottel
Are you new to recovery? If you are reading this and you answer this question with a solid yet resigned YES, walking into a 12-step meeting can be overwhelming. The sights, the sounds, the smell of strong coffee, strangers engaging in recovery speak that sounds like a...
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How to Quit Porn

By obormottel
Several months ago, a video went viral regarding pornography from an unlikely source. Comedian Russell Brand discussed his battle with porn, the negative effect it has had in his life, and his desire to have it out of his life. First, he shares his belief that: “Our atti...
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4 Dangers of Pornography

By obormottel
There are some beautiful beaches in the world that have hidden dangers. When water floods sand below the surface, the sand particles get pushed apart. The result is a muddy mixture of the two that can’t support the weight of a person. When someone walks over it, they sin...
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This is what you start with...

By obormottel
You start by learning a special technique with your alarm clock: You set it one hour earlier than usual, and when it rings you get up. Do not underestimate (a) the importance and (b) the difficulty of this simple technique. It is important because it enables you to get ...
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Is there such a thing as Sex Addiction?

By obormottel
Is Sex Addiction a True Addiction? Weiss: “Yes. The question of whether sex addiction exists is really a non-issue. We know that it exists, we know what causes it and, most important, we know how to provide useful treatment.” “Sexual addiction (as a diagnosis), readily...
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SOME SHAME IS GOOD

By obormottel
All living creatures have no shame, with the exception of human beings. When we have intellect we understand the concept of shame. When we don’t use our intellect as human beings (behaving like animals) we have no shame. The trait of shame is a boundary to protect us fr...
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