Every Descent Leads Up
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1620  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Image of the Day: Yeridah l'tzorech Aliyah
12 Step Attitude: Guest Speakers Series on DC’s Calls
Prevention: The Magnitude and Root-Causes of Today’s Kedusha Crisis
Announcements: Dov's Q&A Thursday Call
Chizuk: The Lobster’s Legacy
 
 
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Image of the Day
 
Yeridah l'tzorech Aliyah
 
Yeridah l'tzorech Aliyah
12 Step Attitude
 
Guest Speakers Series on DC’s Calls
 
By Duvid Chaim

Announcing our Special Guest Speakers Series on Duvid Chaim’s Conference Calls

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It gives us great pleasure to invite you to the upcoming Speaker’s Series. Featuring internationally acclaimed Speakers, sharing their special and inspiring insights just for our GYE Members (men and women are invited).

At 12 Noon EST

The Call-in Number is (641) 715-3836

Access Code 637207#

In the coming weeks, we are honored to bring you Rabbi Dovid Goldwasser, Rabbi Moshe Tuvia Lieff, Rabbi Dr. Twerski and more. We will also be inspired by a Special Appearance of Miriam, Duvid Chaim’s wife, speaking about “Everything you wanted to know about your wife, but were afraid to ask!”

Stay tuned for details on all of these speakers.

Prevention
 
The Magnitude and Root-Causes of Today’s Kedusha Crisis
 
Part 12/12
 
What is the magnitude of the problems that have arisen as a result of digital technology, and how can we address the core roots that lead to these problems?
 
By Yaakov from GYE

Better Kedusha education, from young until married.

Another frum educator suggests:

It occurs to me that halachic sex education is very hard to come by. I constantly hear of people learning chumra and thinking it's halacha. So many people (frum and married) have questions with regards to their own sexual fulfilment and no one whom they can ask. There's not a straight talking book anywhere on the market. Hardly a shiur available.

If people are unsatisfied sexually and have no address to turn to or are too embarrassed, they'll find their pleasures anonymously.

I bet if you carried out a survey with regards to what is ossur or Mutar you will find more "I don't knows" and chumras than anything else.

Yes, klal Israel has always been tzanua on these inyanim. But perhaps that tsnius has become a luxury in today's world of total access. Perhaps we need to be more vocal and aggressive about making sure our communities are educated properly on these topics. Our couples need to be educated and our parents need to be armed to protect and educate their children, our singles.

We have fought every war with education. Is this one any different?


RYW Responds:

She is raising an important point. Frum boys and girls are raised to think that their private parts are bad, and intimacy is bad. It makes it difficult for young married couples to switch have a healthy and nourishing sexual relationship.

We have to teach that the bris is the most holy part of the body, the portal to pnimuis. Intimacy is the most kadosh thing, akin in the words of Ramban in Igeres Hakodesh to dveikus to the shechina. One draws down hashpaa from the highest level of Daas when one has intimacy (that's why its called Vayeida)

Because it is so holy, klippos and the yetzer hara attack it the most aggressively

The sfas emes says that the makom of the bris is the source of Desire-Love and the mekor of Ahavas hashem!


GYE Responds:

Excellent points. This issues comes up all the time in our work on guardyoureyes.com.

R' Simcha Feuerman, President of NEFESH (mental health) did a series of talks on this topic called "The Chosson Shiurim you wish you had but never got" that gives a lot of refreshing clarity in this important area.

He also wrote a great article called "The Dangers of Misguided Piety" - worth reading!

Regarding giving children the right attitudes on sexuality and their body, we wrote booklets for teen boys and teen girls in Hebrew and we are presently having them translated to English.

We also just created a booklet for young boys now, approx ages 11-13, which gives them just enough information to help them keep safe and pure, but not a drop of "extra" information which could be detrimental. Again, it's in Hebrew now but will be translated shortly to English. We believe this booklet will make big waves in the frum world. Rav Aharon Feldman is currently reviewing it and will hopefully write a haskama for it shortly.

Announcements
 
Dov's Q&A Thursday Call
 

Change in Dov's Q&A Call

 

Dov's Q&A Call will no longer be 4 times a week, but rather only twice a week:

Tuesday and Thursdays, 8-9am NY Time.

(For recordings of previous calls, click here)

Note: This does not affect the Desperadoes Call, which continues to be Sundays and Wed at Noon.

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Chizuk
 
The Lobster’s Legacy
 
By Rabbi Boruch Leff -- Published in Yated (Feb 2017)
 
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Have you heard of Rav Motta Frank?

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Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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