Hashem sends refuah before the makkah
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1447  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Image of the Day: Enjoy the trip!
Personal Stories: Hashem sends salvation
12 Step Attitude: Am I a Lustaholic?
Prevention: 25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
Links: Living with a sex addict
 
 
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Enjoy the trip!
 
Enjoy the trip!
Personal Stories
 
Hashem sends salvation
 
By Arye (posted on our forum):
 
By GYE Member

Something happened a few minutes ago that I thought was amazing:

I was about to fall. It was after a long day of temptation, at about 11:15PM, and as I was about to start acting out, I heard someone try the handle of my front door!

I immediately ran upstairs to tell my parents, and after we checked it out, it turned out that my parents had ordered a book, and it had just been dropped off.

Everyone was relieved but curious as to why they had come so late. But I knew!

I just felt liked I needed to share. I am grateful to Him for saving me.

12 Step Attitude
 
Am I a Lustaholic?
 
Conversation
 
By GYE Member

You said yesterday that you can't accept the fact that you are (or you are labeled) a lustaholic - an addict to lust.

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Prevention
 
 
25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
 

Please check out the full guide to beating porn addiction in this and upcoming issues (For the first in the series, please refer to issue #1436). The creators of the infographic have taken each of the 25 strategies and provided clear practical actions to take in detail:

Visualisation – And It’s Backed By Science

Porn Blocker
Most visualisation techniques have little evidence to support them, except one.

The scientific name for it is Mental Contrasting with Implementation Intentions and is the result of 20 years of scientific research by New York University psychologist Garbiele Oettingen and her colleague Heather Kappes.

How does it work?

Well you don’t imagine the way you want the future to be, as most pop psychologists will suggest. That will make it harder to achieve. Think of yourself viewing less porn and you’ll watch more porn.

In order to replace a bad habit with a good habit you have to methodically combine negative and positive thoughts or, as Oettingen named it, WOOP for Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, Plan.

The four stages are:

• Think about what you want to achieve for five minutes – a porn free life, for instance.
• Then vividly imagine the best thing you associate with having achieved that outcome (an emotion, more time, feeling happier, more in control).
• Ask yourself what internal obtacles are most likely to prevent you from achieving this – this is about the internal rather than external issues you have. Why can’t you stop watching porn?
• Then create an ‘if-then’ plan in order to take action if that obstacle arises. “If I find myself wanting to watch porn, I’ll remember how it makes me feel and leave the room, or use an internet blocker immediately”.

This technique works by showing you what you want, but helps motivate you to achieve it by ensuring you create a plan to deal with any obstacles. You can’t achieve your aim just by dreaming about it.

Check out the official website here: WOOP My Life.

 

Links
 

The following article is geared towards spouses of addicts, but we thought it would be beneficial to strugglers, as well.

Living with a sex addict

This link will take you to a site outside of GYE network. While we vetted the site and found it to contain no objectionable imagery, viewer discretion is advised.

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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