Love, not Lust
 
 
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Q & A: What about Disclosure during Shidduchim?
Announcements: GYE is Looking for a Professional Fundraiser to Expand our Operation and Reach
Text: Love, Not Lust
Prevention: 25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
 
 
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Editor’s Note
 
For your convenience...

Dear GYE family,

you may have noticed that in order to improve the readability of our newsletters, we now direct you to our website to read the full-length articles instead of publishing an article in the body of the email. We realize, however, that some of our readers have made a choice not to have any interent on their electronic devices, and, as the result, they're unable to access our website. 

If you're one of these people, do not despair! You can download the GYE app and gain access to our site thru it without being exposed to the rest of the world wide web. Or, you can email us and we will be happy to email you back to copy of an article you want to read. Please make sure you include the issue number and article title with your request.

Best wishes for contniued sobriety,

Mottel.

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Q & A
 
What about Disclosure during Shidduchim?
 
By GYE Member

Someone wrote to GYE:

I have been sober for almost ten months, Baruch Hashem, and I have been attending SA meetings for almost a year. I got permission from my addiction therapist to begin dating at six months of sobriety, and I began a few months ago, right after Succos. On my fourth girl, it got to a point where I needed to disclose, as per instructions from rabbis and therapist. The girl ended up rejecting me because of this. 

Obviously, this isn’t the girl who I’m supposed to marry, but moving forward, I wanted to know if you could help me get in touch with other bachurim or rabbanim who have experience in this unique issue of disclosing.

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Announcements
 
 
GYE is Looking for a Professional Fundraiser to Expand our Operation and Reach
 
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Love, Not Lust
 

This link will take you to a GYE recording of the 52-minute long shiur by Rabbi Brody.

Prevention
 
 
25 Steps to Beating Porn Addiction
 

Please check out the full guide to beating porn addiction in this and upcoming issues (For the first in the series, please refer to issue #1436). The creators of the infographic have taken each of the 25 strategies and provided clear practical actions to take in detail:

Write Down Your Goals And Create A Plan Of Action

    Robust and powerful evidence shows that writing down your aims and goals, with clear steps for how to achieve them, gives your brain a framework and focus.

    This is one of the most powerful actions you can take.

    A Harvard MBA study of graduates found those who wrote down their goals and a plan of action were twice as successful than those who didn’t write down any goals.

    The sense of achievement when you tick off each action point will increase your motivation and keep you on track.

    Don’t be vague and be specific. Don’t write: I will give up porn. But say exactly what you will do: I will block my internet access for three hours today. I will go for a run. I will spend 30 minutes contacting friends to meet up so I am out of the house when I would normally view porn.

    Just by writing a list you’ll begin to feel in control.

 

 

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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