Get a Partner or Sponsor
How can partner/s help me if they are in the same boat as I am?
The Pasuk in Mishlei (18:1) says: "Le'taava yevakesh nifrad - Desire seeks isolation". Isolation causes us to go after our Taavah - our lust. The addiction wants us to withdraw into ourselves and disconnect from reality. A partner in this struggle can do wonders in helping us reconnect to the world around us and ultimately break free. Going into detail with someone else about what we are feeling, is one of the best ways to let go of the lust when it strikes. And describing what we've done is one of the best ways to get rid of the unhealthy shame and move on.
A partner or sponsor also introduces the vital element of "accountability" into the equation. As Rav Yochanan Ben Zakai blessed his students, "May your fear of heaven be equal to your fear of man". And his students asked him: "Rebbe, is that all?". And he answered: "Halevai!". (See Tool #11 of the GYE Program to learn more about the value and power of having a partner).
Once you have joined the GYE Partner/Sponsor program, our system will help you find a partner or sponsor to be in touch with by either e-mail, phone or chat. You will be offered the best matches based on what you're looking for, your gender, marriage status, location and other constraints.
You can also join the GYE Phone Community where you will have access to telephone numbers of fellow strugglers who are offering to be called whenever the temptation is growing and you feel a need to reach out to someone else.
Click here to join the GYE Partner/Sponsor Program.
Definition of Terms:
Partner: A fellow struggler to keep in touch with for chizuk and accountability.
Sponsor: Someone who is clean for at least 90 days and is offering to help strengthen others, either as a Mitzva or as part of his own recovery (Step 12).
Sponsee: Someone who is looking for a sponsor.