Hi Nosson/Nate and Welcome!!!

Yes you are in the right place. This is actually the place where all the guys really care and love to help and more then anything really understand where your coming from.

So stick around read and post, there is tons to learn here and amazing guys!!

Keep On Trucking and Posting!!!

For the sake of honesty i will report that i had a fall according to the paradigms of gye. at about 300 days of sobriety i saw in a device which was not filtered images that are not accepted period. There was no M. and no spilling seed, i am almost one year clean for that matter. Nevertheless the day i fell i started counting again my clean days; so to my credit i picked up myself right a way , no delays . after that episode watching my eyes became extremely difficult , B"H i still watch my eyes to this day.
I remember being angry at somebody and talking L"H about two others. I think these were the final triggers. I will learn from all of this for the future . Wishing everyone Hatzlacha in your journeys , and Keep On Trucking everybody , i promise it is worth it.

cordnoy wrote:

ZemirosShabbos wrote:


Don't jump da gun!

bardichev wrote:

Welcome and much Hatzlacha!!!

Remember the main thing to focus on is ONE DAY AT A TIME.

The 90 days are just 90 times one day at a time.

In any case keep on trucking and keep us posted!

Hi everyone i had a couple slips here and there the past week or so but i am just trying to stay afloat and just keep on trucking and keep faith in myself and be the best that i can be and try to do.

Welcome FY!

Great way to start your road to sobriety by joining us here at gye. And amazing first post.

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

Keep On Monster Trucking KOMT and Keep On Trucking KOT or Keep On Posting KOP!!!

I can relate to that stress. I can share with you what a big talmid chochom once told me about a similar situation.
The other guy is upset and/or stressed. Nothing will be gained by you also being stressed.

Acceptance is the key. If you did something wrong, then learn the lesson and go vayter. business is business. You messed up. He got messed up. You will both be doing plenty of business in the future. perhaps not together, but who cares? there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Keep on trucking, buddy.

Welcome Chozer!!!

Gevaldigah post!!! Keep up the good work!!! Remember though that the triggers could just pop up from nowhere so be ready.

Its really nice to see and hear how you feel your shtaiging from day to day be"h.

Keep On Trucking!!!

Keep On Trucking!!!

Thanks for sharing!!!!

Palti-Yossef wrote:


Thank you for touching my heart , i am happy i helped you. Keep On Trucking ! You Can Do It !!

I"ll share an excellent quote : "There is but one cause of human failure. And that is man's lack of FAITH IN HIS TRUE SELF." (William James).

Kol Hakavod for showing to the meeting . One showed up and that was you , Hashem shall give you the same reward and strength to continue your journey.

Sorry about the lost money. I just read a nice quote : "Until he extends his circle of compassion to include all living things, man will not himself find peace."
I guess forgiving the other guy and wishing him well its your only option and a must if you want to achieve serenity.

A big Mazel and Hatzlacha for your son in the coming year . He and his siblings shall give you plenty of nachas .

Be well now serenity Keep on trucking and keep up the good work !

Thanks - it's been a long time since someone encouraged me to keep on trucking! Thanks for the smile!

Bris Olam wrote:
This is something I've been through plenty myself... we all know that mz"l is a huge aveira... and so for me, and I imagine most of us here, I react emotionally with horror when I have done that, c"v. But for me anyway, I have recognized the need to learn to channel that reaction not to beating myself up - e.g. "Oh, Hashem's going to zap me now", "I'm such a rasha","I have no hope of beating this" - which is for me is a very easy thing to fall into, but extremely counterproductive... but instead, to focus on "what happened here?" and "what can I do differently next time?" (I learned this from others here on GYE)... it's a double-benefit, in that not only am I not making myself feel like cr-p (sorry for the blunt language), but I'm actually at least trying to push myself towards improvement, which b'ezras Hashem, I will realize, even if only a little bit at a time.

Like others have already said, we are here for you... you're not alone... and that if you fall, c"v, just dust yourself off, get back on your feet and Keep on Trucking (KOT).

Please G-d, you (and everyone else here) should have hatzlacha rabba.

-- Larry