Welcome. You're in the right place.

First of all I apreciate that you've read the GYE handbook. No two people are the same, everyone has a slightly different set of circumstances, but we all share this problem and since we share the problem we can share the solution too. The book is written in a general way so it can apply to everyone. I found it helpful to really think about what the book was saying and how it applied to me and me own life.

This is a very common problem nowadays, you're far from the only one to deal with it. The word addict gets thrown around quite a lot, but most people who struggle with this issue are not addicts, just normal people with a normal yetzer hora. Which is good. Some people have come to realise that they really are addicts because their situation got gradually worse and worse despite working on it. When I say worse I mean, in frequency, severity or just feeling worse after every slip. If that is the case we may need more than GYE, which most people find to be therapy or SA or both. But I wouldn't jump to that conclusion about you. Many people have overcome this challenge right here on GYE using the tools in the handbook.

So stick around. Keep posting, keep reading and keep on trucking.

Welcome. You're in the right place.

First of all please take time to read through the GYE handbook.  No two people are the same, everyone has a slightly different set of circumstances, but we all share this problem and since we share the problem we can share the solution too. The book is written in a general way so it can apply to everyone. I found it helpful to really think about what the book was saying and how it applied to me and me own life.

This is a very common problem nowadays, you're far from the only one to deal with it. The word addict gets thrown around quite a lot, but most people who struggle with this issue are not addicts, just normal people with a normal yetzer hora. Which is good. Some people have come to realise that they really are addicts because their situation got gradually worse and worse despite working on it. When I say worse I mean, in frequency, severity or just feeling worse after every slip. If that is the case we may need more than GYE, which most people find to be therapy or SA or both. But I wouldn't jump to that conclusion about you. Many people have overcome this challenge right here on GYE using the tools in the handbook.

So stick around. Keep posting, keep reading and keep on trucking.

Markz wrote on 20 Dec 2016 01:14:

Meetings are great, working the program is even better.
I also get a lot of help from therapy (there i said it, i go to therapy )
Thanks for the karma- the other guy is at 246 now
Mark- determination is something YOU can talk about

Welcome

Maybe do like I did. Focus on today - does it mean some sort of railings so you don't fall, or look for like minded addicts shoulder's for support

Then every now and then update the chart

Keep on Trucking!!!

How's meetings going?

I plussed your karma - wish I could get it to 245 in one swoop like you did for someone else!!

You're a real determined guy - gonna get far in life. Keep on Trucking!!!!!!

HayomYom wrote on 15 Dec 2016 15:03:

This karma thing may be an increasing issue.... 
But it could also point to a forum addiction (culprit!)...
Keep on trucking, but don't rely too much on the karma highway....

Markz wrote:

Well, I feel like slipping also, so that makes 2 out of 15. Actually, I feel like falling 

Everything is done together in the group.

Slipping has to be a coordinated group activity - until that happens - and it won't - you're just gonna be stuck

Now about slipping - if I feel I'm about to slip it essentially means falling all the way

Is there a way you can keep on trucking without getting wet?

HayomYom wrote on 15 Dec 2016 15:03:

Wow for that attitude you got a Karma from me:wink:

Hayom yom 20 (twenty)

Good and plenty

(To the fellow who swiped all of my hard-earned Karma: Sorry I do not live up to your standards. At first I was a bit irritated, and was tempted to sooth myself by acting out. But then I realized that I came here to count my days, not my Karma. Thank G-d, nobody (but myself) can swipe my hard-earned days. So I say, "Karma Shwarma - Keep on trucking!")

Singularity wrote:


If you leave your house for 6 months it will collect a heck of a lot of dust. Same if one does not shower for weeks he will be repugnant even if he did not exert and shvitz.
These are natural phenomena. 
The spiritual body is the same. Naturally we are in downhill mode. Even when you reach a peak plateau, you WILL crash c'v, unless you do as Cordnoy says "Work on bettering yourself" / KEEP ON TRUCKING

Singularity. I think this answers your other question - if you should update your count daily every morning?
IMHO it's not necessary and Dov doesn't buy it either as it's sort of white knuckling, however I believe there's a benefit in reaffirming your commitment daily to make today a great one, if that's your intent in the click

Markz wrote on 13 Dec 2016 14:45:

Risky endeavour, contending with King Solomon, Markz! But I admire your forwardness.

@Tzedek: If the only way to get somewhere is to enter a village of idol worshippers where they will for sure make you bow down to an idol, then vadai it's assur, no? Now the question is, is youtube on that level or not?
What maths videos? There are many sites that have maths tutorials without videos, sometimes even with them! No?

LifneiHashem wrote on 13 Dec 2016 00:46:

Shlomo will say 1 day has a nicer ring to it



You're doing great

KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!!

Gertaman1 wrote on 11 Dec 2016 23:28:

Welcome!

Great going - serious!

You say 'calling someone'. Is that about the weather, or another recovering sex addict?
Perhaps Taphsic will work for you for longer than 5 days, who knows.

If it doesn't, we have a whole team of legal experts with the credentials to consider it null and void and get you into real recovery

Keep on Trucking or Tricycling with Dov ++

I think one of the beautiful lessons of the anonymous forum is that when someone like me wants to get free of lust, it's earthly possible to do that without ruining my reputation in my community.

Joining an SA (sex anonymous) meeting in my community can have the same zero impact on my social standing as this anonymous forum, so if that's what's gonna fire my truck - why not

But some people prefer to hide behind veils of secrecy, and often have their reputations ruined in any case - so... each man to his own!

As the Rebbe Bards says and here's the musical version "Keep on Trucking"