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14 Nov 2021 16:59

Sapy

Re: Striving for Excellence
Buddy I'm sorry to hear about your fall. 

in my humble opinion, your doing great, no need to stress about it, as the saying used to go here... Fell, shmell...  just dust off and keep going, maybe in 10 days or so, you can try to think what you could've done to not fall in such a situation, to know for the future. But for now... Keep on Trucking!
Category: Break Free
26 May 2021 14:16

HappyYid

Re: Challenge Accepted!!!
Grant400 wrote on 26 May 2021 13:55:
Hi guys! Good morning! 

Yes, I'm all chirpy, cause...one day at a time!

I have a theory. When I iniinitially joined GYE, I worked on discipline and control. I learned to value good and despise bad. I learned techniques and tricks. I learned to recognize what's truth and what isn't. I was really shteiging and I slowly worked my way up to close to 180 days. The I got comfortable, became complacent, and..  

Then I fell.

Immediately I invigorated myself and committed to a taphsic, knasos, punishments and kabalos. All fired up for rectifying my bad choices, but I continued to slip and fall no matter how much my savings account depleted. Did it help alot, yes - not always is a person willing to pay $500 for a peek, but nothing in me was changing. It was like locking an alcoholic in jail. He may not have access to any hard stuff, but as soon as he breaks loose he's gonna be sucking dem stuff down. I believe the term is dry drunk. 

What I gotta do is change my mindset back to what it was initially. No more can I answer desire with "too expensive" or "you said Hashem's name in your shvuah", It's gotta come from me. Me not wanting it. Me, my heart and brain, not that other animalistic part.

I must start to work on yiddishkeit as a whole. Davening, learning, yiras shamayim etc. It's gotta become an "I don't want" instead of "I can't". 

How long will it take? What steps exactly to do? What new practices to accept? I'm not sure yet, but it will be done.

I have faith in myself. I really do.

We all have faith in you too!
Keep on trucking.

Hatzlacha!
Category: Break Free
13 May 2021 03:27

Hakolhevel

Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
Watson wrote on 03 Mar 2017 08:52:
Welcome. You're in the right place.

First of all please take time to read through the GYE handbook.  No two people are the same, everyone has a slightly different set of circumstances, but we all share this problem and since we share the problem we can share the solution too. The book is written in a general way so it can apply to everyone. I found it helpful to really think about what the book was saying and how it applied to me and my own life.

This is a very common problem nowadays, you're far from the only one to deal with it. The word addict gets thrown around quite a lot, but most people who struggle with this issue are not addicts, just normal people with a normal yetzer hora. Which is good. Some people have come to realise that they really are addicts because their situation got gradually worse and worse despite working on it. When I say worse I mean, in frequency, severity or just feeling worse after every slip. If that is the case we may need more than GYE, which most people find to be therapy or SA or both. But I wouldn't jump to that conclusion about you. Many people have overcome this challenge right here on GYE using the tools in the handbook.

So stick around. Keep posting, keep reading and keep on trucking.

This is a great Intro for newcomers
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
12 May 2021 03:38

Gevura Shebyesod

Re: Make it to Yeshiva
Keep on trucking. Refua sheleima. 
Category: Introduce Yourself
09 Mar 2021 03:46

Markz

Re: Make it to Yeshiva
YeshivaGuy wrote on 09 Mar 2021 00:57:
(Too scared to post this so I’ll put it in parentheses, After I did the last post I was nichshal more until my friend came from the bais at which point I called him and changed code... I went and got a massive cup of frozen yogurt for dinner, and now feeling withdrawal from not watching more zachen. Oyyy it’s like drinking sand, doesn’t quench the thirst.)

Ooh I was getting worried you went crazy with some ToughSics or Cold showers...

Good to see you’re normal. 
I love your posts and watching your progress. 
You’ve come a long way. 
No worries.
Keep on Trucking. 

How much does it cost to FedEx it home?
2 days in yeshiva without it is worth the few bucks...
Category: Introduce Yourself
24 Jan 2021 03:03

Markz

Re: watching movies
Shteeble wrote on 24 Jan 2021 00:14:

excon wrote on 23 Jan 2021 23:22:
hi i am an 18 year old struggling in both areas 
can anyone give their opinion on watching movies and series does this contradict the program because i personally feel when i have urge one of the best distracting  options is to watch a captivating movie, clean obviously

What's a clean movie?

Welcome Exxon. Keep on trucking :-)

What’s the “both areas” of struggle. 
Do you peek out of one eye at a time?
Category: Introduce Yourself
21 Jan 2021 05:46

starting

Re: Starting Again...
Mazel tov 
That's amazing!!  You're amazing!! 

Keep on trucking 
Category: Break Free
21 Dec 2020 19:10

OivedElokim

Re: just joined
Keep on trucking!
Category: Introduce Yourself
17 Dec 2020 20:59

OivedElokim

Re: *LIVE* documentation of 30 days
You got this. You installed a filter on your devices. You removed all the triggers you could have realistically speaking, without giving up you parnasa. Now work on your internal filter. You have the ability to push away dirty thoughts, to stop fantasizing. Without recognizing that you won’t be able to overcome this with all the filters in the world. But if you do recognize it, you will be unstoppable.
So keep on trucking, and maybe try reading the handbook again. Most importantly-keep us posted (pun intended )
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
23 Nov 2020 06:41

starting

Re: A Huge Yasher Koach for 22 Days!
Mazel tov!! 


Just remember that you are in control. Yes, life is stressful now. And you'll get used to winning even with this extra hurdle. In the meantime, don't let the falls get you. You are marrying an amazing girl and you have plenty to look forward to in life. Keep on trucking! 
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
18 Oct 2020 02:07

OivedElokim

Re: Make it to Yeshiva
YeshivaGuy, you’re a rockstar!

Keep on trucking...
Category: Introduce Yourself
14 Oct 2020 16:32

Snowflake

Re: There must be a way
starting wrote on 07 Oct 2020 15:46:
Day 33

My wife had a go at me today about our financial situation 

Came awfully close to masturbating my brains out
Multiple times

One thought that went through my mind then may be beneficial:
It will take multiple falls to relieve this
I will still be stuck financially then
My wife will not change her attitude 
I will feel even worse
And, I will not enjoy the fall at all
It will just give me the feeling that I'm free, that I can do as I wish 
But at the same time I will still feel the stress and burden of having to pay the bills
And I will be depressed as I do it and afterwards 

I am now realising that this thought process signals the progress of recent months
Both, that it comes up in my mind in times of nisayon and that it was a real detterent (and least at 33 days, I doubt I would have held back on day 10)

And while I hope and pray that my finances will be simpler and that I should not have these nisyonos, I thank hashem for revealing to me in such a clear example how great I can and will Iy"h go on to be

Such real post, yasher koiach for sharing.
Each of us have our own set of issues with our wives and I speak for myself at least, they can really rock your boat.
Came awfully close to acting out several times when argued with her in the past.
I really agree with what you said. Having this mindset of "acting out is just gonna make things worse" kinda helps. In fact not acting out can be a great source of brochos and yeshuos for all kinds of nissyonos.
What really helps me when I'm really angry/depressed is to do something completely mind numbing for a while. E.g. I have an app for chess puzzles. They can really get your mind off reality for a while. Sometimes, for myself at least, unplugging myself from reality a bit can be soothing.
Anyway Yasher Koach starting and remember, everyone has rough patches, not even the guy who has been sober for years is safe or free from bumps. Just keep on trucking!
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
13 Oct 2020 21:48

OivedElokim

Re: Mental Health and Marriage
You are a brave man! HaShem should bless you with success in overcoming your challenges, as you inspire the rest of us to keep on trucking.
All the best.
OivedElokim
Category: Break Free
18 Sep 2020 10:33

starting

Re: There must be a way
Erev rosh hashana
14 days clean
Baruch hashem

I have no words to thank you all my dear gye brothers
May we all have the strength and perseverance to keep on trucking and achieve lifelong sobriety 
שנה טובה ומתוקה 
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
10 Sep 2020 01:40

Ihavestrength

Re: Fresh thoughts
Day 129: I had a tough day today. I had a massive headache for most of the day. It seems the headache came from my glasses pressing against face. Hopefully, I can get them adjusted tomorrow. I took them off in the evening, and since then I've gotten some relief. Doing school on the computer for hours with a massive headache was no fun. I also have loads of work due which is sort of scaring me. I'm also worrying about all sorts of other things. Finding my bashert, or more accurately, I'm more worried about not finding her. Worried about what people think of me. I have a physical issue which I worry people can detect, although it seems like that it is mostly just a worry. (Sorry for being vague, I can't quite just go and describe myself exactly for you, can I?)

I don't know how much sense the above paragraph made. I don't know if it's relatable. Maybe it sounds like I'm just saying crazy things. If so, I apologize. Going through a pretty tough time now on a lot of fronts. I'm in school in a very challenging subject area. Shidduchim is also a great source of stress. Among all the other areas in life. Mental health stuff.

Yes, I'm complaining. Hey, I had a bad day. Ok, sorry for ranting and raving. I'm going to go and write in my gratitude journal app to set my head straight. Also, so important to move my body. Just walking to maariv and back and getting in some more steps has helped me a bit. OK, maybe I don't need to worry, Hashem knows what he is doing. Sorry for the negative vibes. Planning on having the positive Ihavestrength back tommorow Have a great night everyone, and if you made it this far, thanks for reading! Keep on trucking!
Category: On the Way to 90-Days
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