reb biblical marmoset,
you are doing awesomegevaldigwonderful!
keep it up and i am gonna keep praying for the
GYE Kuntress Be'inyanei Gidul Ve'kiyum shel Marmosets Babayit
keep on trucking
enjoy Shabbos

you CAN put it back together!

your'e not the first and won't be the last!
(i'm somewhere in the middle right now...)

jew, point #1-
your'e background of being a bt or ffb or objd (orange bearded jews for donuts guy) is not relevant.

what IS relevant is that you are becoming honest, and getting out of isolation.
you just found a community of 1,200 peope with your story.
some better.
some worse.
some with the hots for marmoset peanut butter
and some who are triggered by orange bearded donut sniffers

Here you'll get the tools to slap humpty dumpty back together again. If only the king then had what our community has, the song wouldnt exist

i will knight you,

and bestow upon you several commands that you musn't violate (please excuse me im in a weird mood)

1)please ,without triggering information, please tell us what is it exactly , if anything, that is bothering you, that motivates you to look at green elephants?
2)please immediately begin reading the GYE handbook, before shnayim mikra
3)please post often, use the forum as a way to receive and give others chizuk and tips. also use your thread as a diary of sorts, to get self awareness
4)you will NOT recover overnight, but by being here you will learn how to gain inche by inch back of your brain turf and develop A SYSTEMATIC WAY OF DEALING WITH THIS. and that system will take you all the way to the end

the east coasters of GYE are all sleeping right now, so im the humble one to greet you;however, just know that on friday the forum is a little vacant since people are doing sponja for shabbos

FINALLY, PLEASE LEARN THE FOLLOWING PHRASE: keep on trucking, or KOT
this is very imp. here

KOT

tz90

fellow yid!

just remember one thing! those 34 days of holding back, of staying strong, of fighting, is already in the can no one can take it away from you, its all yours for the rest of your life, no matter what will happen.

so give yourself s pat in the back and shout out loudly, I've been clean for 34 days. I'm awesome, great, gevaldig........
do you really understand what 34 days is? think of it, how different it could have been

now just stay focused on today, tell yourself today is going to be rock solid
i want to hear from you in 15 days something like "I'm clean for 50 days (except one fall) yes i did it"

oh one more important thing
KEEP ON TRUCKING

reb d.

34 days great stuff...but its the PAST!
what about focusing on the PRESENT... those precious 3-seconds in front of you!

this is where the battle really is.
and the biggest rewards!

not to mention conquering 3 seconds is much easier than having to think about regaining your lost 34 days!

3-seconds...one second at a time.

pick yourself up - dust yourself off.
focus on where you are going...

and keep on trucking

dont forget to smile !

it'll scare the Y"H away!

dov.ii

38. You say "Keep on trucking" to your UPS man.

an honest mouse wrote on 07 Mar 2011 13:58:

sometimes Hashem brings us to fall coz He wants our relationship, if we try to keep that up on a consistant basis, then we wont need to fall - keep on trucking EYE, u teach us so much and we really appreciate you for it!

wow just keep on going, you are doing great
cantdoitmyself wrote on 06 Mar 2011 14:35:


its unbelievable how just working on this addiction drives us to be better in everything else,
this battle will be the road to your success in many different areas

im really happy for you
keep on trucking....full force

ugh!

so many posts, thoughts, tips, tricks to help us avoid battle in the first place...

but what happens when we fall?
where do we find the strength to get back up, before we go into a downward spiral?

Bard - offers us, to pick ourselves up, dust yourself off, and KEEP ON TRUCKING!!

but (with all due respect to Bard) there must be more!
How can we turn the situation around, and gain from it, learn from it, and hopefully avoid falling into the same trap again (tomorrow, the next day, next week, etc) ??

Are you ready to start climbing upwards...tired of getting knocked down?

want some answers?

Come Join us - Tues 2:30 Eastern (11:30 pacific, 9:30 pm Israel)
as we continue our journey, and begin to descend:

20,000 Leagues beneath the surface of an addiction...

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Isn't it time YOU reclaimed YOUR life - and start living??

dov.in.israel
(aka. Dov.ii )

oneday wrote on 02 Mar 2011 15:53:


Awesome Job.  This just goes to show the inner fortitude that you have built up inside of you.  Keep On trucking!!!
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

as bard would put it

get a truck and keep on trucking

but one thing: even at a red light, DO NOT get off the truck, stay inside, it will turn green again,

hatlucha

hey Laag...

this is the other Dov (in Israel) - mind if I jump in, and add my 2 cents (dont worry the dollar keeps dropping against the shekel...so its not really worth 2 cents anyway... )

in my Tuesday phone group - we are using an experimental method of recovery.
the idea is to tap into the right side of the brain (the more creative side), and seemingly the less affected side of the brain when it comes to visual addictions (like internet, p*rn, etc )

we are using an analogy...to understand where we are, and how we go here.

briefly, the story is like this...

Q:What is the buzzing we sense going on in our brains?
A: An invisible MUD wasp (frankly you can call it whatever you want: addiction, disease, trigger, or mud wasp., or whatever makes you happy, as long as you realize you have to do something to deal with it! _ )

Q: What does the mud wasp do?
A: Builds a wasp nest out of mud - which makes us feel dirty (its an analogy - get it.. MUD wasp...dirt)

Q: Why do we have such a hard time with spiritually while we are acting out - and for several days after?
A: the mud in our brain blocks out the (spiritual) Light

Q: whats really going on?
A: the addiction (or mud wasp, whatever) are literally eating our mind.. and destroying us (really!! )

Q: What can we do?
A: rebuild that which was destroyed... little by little...work on breaking through the mud nest.. (or destroyed brain cells) ..retraining ourselves, to bring the light in...Grow Spiritually, reach out to others, learn about what is going on... come out of isolation,e tc

@Dov - how am doing?

or as Bard might say - the road might have been destroyed... but we still need to Keep on Trucking!!
@Bard - how does that sound? am i getting it?

AA/SA - the message is keep coming back.
- Bottom line.., Grow Spiritually...its the only way to rebuild that which has been destroyed!
- its like a built in safety switch which the awesome Creator of the Universe has given us!

Dov.ii

I slipped a bit last night.
Not sure why. During the day I had full opportunity but distracted myself with something else.
Then when everyone was asleep (and I was wiiiide awake) I got up and started flicking through the channels.
Just bored. Perhaps a bit irritable and seeking comfort. Perhaps a form of sulking.

Whatever the reason,
just keep on trucking.

Thank you Tzaddik90
That really put a smile on my face. I'm honoured to have you here.

My story starts over here:
www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=2614.msg69825#msg69825
Wow, that was about 9 months ago. And today, I am a different person.
This thread is just a log. I found it really helps to check in often.

Update: That "other person" that was such a misery in my life left the company at the end of last year.
I've worked out all my issues there, I know where I went wrong and after that ordeal, I'm not going to make those mistakes again.

Keep on trucking.
ToAdd

The dream does not worry me.
The radiation therapy “did not make things worse”, which is good, it buys some more time.

Last night, I caught my mind trying to turn to lust for comfort, digging up old fantasies.
I changed the channel to a problem I have at work and thought about that instead – worked like a charm.

I’m a bit happier today.
Just need to keep on trucking!

These forums keep logging me out.
Good thing I copy my post from another app (to check spleling).