Being all day on the forum is not a total solution, it will not bring the solution to everything. But, it can be the solution for the problem you have at that moment. I now also got this addiction to the forum. In the past, I use to solve a urge by sitting all day on ..... sites, now, I do it by sitting on the forum. So, is it a total solution ? Does it solve parnusa ? NO, but, it keeps me clean.

Forget about what will be the next hour or the next day or the next 1000 times. We are doing one hour at a time and one day at a time. Remove that pressure, don’t think of the next problem. Just take care of the one you have right now. We will deal with other problems in the future.

The only other thing I can tell you is that it will not last forever the way it is now. Its very difficult in the beginning, but, it will be much easier in the future. Not everyone is the same and I can not tell you at which number of days it will change. But, you can check with every one here who reached 90 days and even those that have reached a little less. It will become easier and some days it will be so easy, that you might forget that you ever hd a problem. The attacks will still come back from time ti to time but not so often. Not a thousand times not even a hundred times.

Keep on trucking. We all have the same issues and we’re happy to communicate openly about our secrets and it helps us.

I see someone mentioned Bardichev's idea of "She may be a problem, but she's not my problem." I asked him to elaborate on this once and this is what he told me:

I AM NOT THE TZNIUS POLICE

I HAVE NO NEED TO LOOK AT OTHER WOMEN AND WONDER

WHY THEY DRESS CERTAIN WAYS

WHY THEIR HUSBANDS LET THEM DRESS THIS WHY

WHY WHY WHY.... ETC ETC

ALL IT DOES IS CREAT A TRIGGER

IT STARTS OFF ON A FRUM PREMISE

BUT IT IS ALL YETZER HORA

SO IF I SEE SOMETHING

I SAY NUU NUU

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ME

AND I MOVE ON

AYY SHE MAY BE A PROBLEM

YES SHE IS

SHE IS HER OWN PROBLEM

HER HUSBAND'S

HER FATHER'S
ETC.

NOT MINE

THAT'S WHAT I CALL KEEP ON TRUCKING


WE ALL HAVE TRIGGERS

WE DON'T NEED TO "ACT" ON THEM

NOW KEEP ON TRUCKING!!!!!!!!!!!!


Bardichev

I find that it helps me a lot not to be in the Tznius Police. I don't even have to check to see if a woman is a problem at all when I am not a policeman.

Reconstruct:

Welcome, there is a place I call home

Thanks for your post. So beautifully written
You literally made me cry (I'm not just saying so, I actually deeply cried)

I dont know what to say or what to add
All I can say, hashem loves you, may you be zocha to finally overcome this

KEEP ON TRUCKING
and
KEEP ON POSTING

We need you to win this.... together we could do it

Will not matter if you keep on trucking. It would be only as a bump on the road.
It will matter a lot if you stop. It will be like a accident.

Eat Hot Dogs LeKuved Yontiff 4th of July (I'll take mine w/mustard and SAuerkraut thank you very much), Drink Woodford, Keep on Trucking!

Sincerely regret being oveir on al tarbeh sichah im haisha and thereby putting your recovery in danger, but at the same time be glad that you weren't oveir issurei negiah (avazreihu d'gilui arayos) and thank Hashem that you cut your losses by not facebooking these girls.

And then GO VEITER!!!

V'zehu Zeh!

KOT!

E

im not alone wrote on 05 Jun 2011 18:55:

(yes I'm quoting .... myself)

I cant belive it

im not alone wrote on 03 Jun 2011 16:13:

(again  quoting myself )

Yes I started ר""ח סיון and today is ר"ח תמוז  and I'm still going strong
Before I implemented that double taphsic approach I was barely able to squeeze out a 4/5 day clean streak. And now...................28 days clean and counting

(talking to myself? ? ?)
INA
Keep it up, you are doing great, were all routing for you,
(sort of proud of myself )

Wishing you much success and continued הצלחה
KEEP ON TRUCKING you make us proud
im not alone

ZemirosShabbos wrote on 29 Jun 2011 20:49:


bardichev wrote on 07 Sep 2010 18:30:

Echos of The Rebbe wrote on 29 Jun 2011 00:56:


So is Torah, Tefillah, Teshuva, Shemiras Eiynayim and Working on Your Middos.  I'd venture to say that doing those things will be more helpful in insuring that you keep on trucking, then a rote dunk in the mikvah.

MEEKVEH EEZ GEVALDIG!

KEEP ON TRUCKING

Parshas Shelach:


After the chet of the Meraglim, when the Jewish People recognized their misdeed, some of them woke early the next morning and wanted to undo some of the damage & go up to Eretz Yisroel immediately. Moshe Rabbeinu told them, "Why are you disobeying Hashem's commandment, IT WILL NOT SUCCEED. Do not go up because HASHEM IS NOT WITH YOU." (14:40-42)


Why is this so?

Does the Torah 'expire' if we transgress it?
Does Hashem leave His chosen Nation just because they sinned?

The GuardYourEyes Handbook, Attitude Tip #26]The Lechevitcher Rebbe (a student of R' Shlomo of Karlin) once went as far as to say that even if
a person just killed someone and the knife is still dripping with blood, and he feels unable to stand
up and daven Mincha (the afternoon service) with all his strength and heart, then he has not yet
tasted from the waters of Chassidus![/quote] Were they wrong in wanting to fulfill Hashem's Will now that they are doing teshuvah?



The preceding possuk ends off; [i]Vayisablu ha'am me'od[/i] - and the nation mourned greatly.[i] (14:39)[/i]
[i]Ein Hashechina shoreh ella mitoch simcha![/i]

If they are not [i]b'simcha[/i], then wrote on 01 Apr 2011 07:28:


If we do that, THEN we can do:
bardichev wrote on 01 Apr 2011 07:28:














;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
guardureyes wrote on 26 May 2009 20:09:
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

Apikorsus!!!!!



Real men drive TRUCKS!!!





Keep on Truckinggggggggggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



GGGEEEVVVAAALLLDDDIIIGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




P.S. Tell Bardichev that we miss him A LOT!!!

Well, I always assumed Reb bards meant "Kind Of Ticklish" by that, but "Keep On Trucking" makes a lot more sense, so let's let it go at that for now...

KOT = Keep on trucking.

Shteeble wrote on 03 Jun 2011 11:22:



All my clean streaks, 96 days and 69 days and 27 days, are dependent on my filter. What do you do when you don't have one?

KEEP ON TRUCKING
FEHL SHMEHL
EAT KOOGOOL

ps sounds like your streak was dependent on your filter.  All those clean days puts you on a high dargeh.  l'choirah a new gameplan might be one that includes fortification for times when you would even come across unfiltered internet.  just a thought.  keep on being the inspiration that you are.