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Links to the 12-Step Workshop Talks 24 Dec 2014 14:51 #245649

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- Introduction and Step 1

- Steps 2-4

- Steps 5-9

- Steps 10-12

Q&A

- Q&A on Steps 2-4

- Q&A on Steps 5-9

- Q&A on Steps 10-12
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Introduction and Step 1: Reference number #78
Steps 2-4, including Q&A: Reference number #80
Steps 5-9, including Q&A: Reference number #82
Steps 10-12, including Q&A: Reference number #84
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Announcement for the 1st talk 07 Jan 2015 02:03 #246713

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Announcement for the 1st talk

SPECIAL ANNOUNCEMENT

Fast Track To Sobriety:

A one hour session for 4 weeks going through the 12 steps


ARE THE 12 PROMISES BEING FULFILLED IN YOUR LIFE ON A DAILY BASIS?

This is workshop is for you ONLY if:

> You have the DESPERATION of a 'drowning man'
> You need to go through the 12 steps FAST
> You need to experience a Spiritual Awakening so the Compulsion to Lust is REMOVED
> You still have some unanswered questions about the program
> You have sobriety but are not 'Happy Joyous and Free'
> You have long term sobriety and want a 'refresh'

WHAT WE WILL COVER:

1st Session: Step 1

2nd Session: Steps 2,3 & 4

3rd Session: Steps 5,6,7,8 & 9

4th session: Steps 10, 11, 12

In our first Session we will cover the following:

> Misconceptions in SA
> The Secret Recipe
> Physical Craving
> Allergy
> RID (restlessness, irritable, discontent)
> Psychic Change
> Lack of Human Power
> The Essence of Step 1
> SA is NOT about Lusting
> Lust is not my main problem
> Unmanageability
> Are You a REAL Sexaholic?
> How do you know if you have taken the first step?

What do you need to bring? Only one thing ... an OPEN mind.

Looking forward to taking the road to recovery with you all!

Stay Pure,
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Recap of 1st Talk 07 Jan 2015 01:56 #246715

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Recap of 1st Talk

To my fellow brothers,

I thank each and every one of you for taking the Courage, Humility and Honesty to join me in the journey to a happy, joyous and free life!

RECAP of 1st Step Call:

> Physical Craving

Craving happens when I take lust in. The craving can only be removed with total abstinence from lust.

> Allergy

I have an allergy - an allergic reaction to lust which only occurs in a 'Real' sexaholic.Do i have an abnormal reaction to lust?

> RID

Key indicators and warning signs that I may need to reach for my 'drug' - Restlessness, Irritable, Discontent

> Psychic Change

There needs to be an entire change in the way I think.
Do I have the power to do that? NO!
No human power can produce in me the essential psychic change.
Are you willing to believe that nothing human can make this happen?

> Powerlessness

If I had the power to stop I don't need the program.
No amount of information will keep me sober.
I cannot complete step one without admitting I am completely powerless

> Am I a real sexaholic?

Can I give up lust with enough pain?
It's not about how much I act out but rather whether I am free to choose to stop!

> The Main Problem is in my Mind

Lust is not my problem - my thinking is my problem. Lust is my solution
It's not about what is happening to me but rather my mind's interpretation of what is happening

> Pain is not enough

No amount of pain and suffering will get me to stop.

> No middle of the road solution

Either I continue to stay sick and progress over time or I work the program and accept spiritual help.

> Levels of sobriety

Peanut butter sobriety - Hamburger Sobriety - Chicken Sobriety - Filet Minyon Sobriety

Do you want peanut butter or steak?

> Unmanageability

Are you having trouble with personal relationships?
Can you control your feelings?
Are you subject to misery and depression?
Do you feel useless at times?
Are you full of fear?
Are you unhappy?

> TAKING STEP ONE

(In a quiet place alone) ask yourself: Am I willing to conceded to my innermost self that I have NO power and that I need a NEW manager?

If YES then I am saying ...

1) I have an abnormal reaction to lust
2) I have experienced the phenomenon of craving
3) NO sufficient reason is enough to keep me sober
4) I lose ALL control once I start to lust
5) I have lost the power to choose whether I will lust or not

CONGRATULATIONS you have successfully taken the first step to freedom!

Please email me at puredaniel613@gmail.com if you do not have a sponsor.

Stay Pure,
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Announcement for the 2nd talk: 07 Jan 2015 01:51 #246716

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Announcement for the 2cd talk:

Fast Track To Sobriety: Part 2

A one hour session for 4 weeks going through the 12 steps


HAVE YOU DISCOVERED THAT YOU ARE A REAL SEXAHOLIC?

HAVE YOU ADMITTED YOU ARE POWERLESS OVER LUST AND YOUR LIFE IS UNMANAGEABLE?

If you have answered YES to both questions then you are ready to take the next steps to recovery!

WHAT WE WILL COVER:

2nd Session: Steps 2,3 & 4

In our next Session we will cover the following:

> Am I Insane?
> When will sanity be restored?
> Powerlessness doesn't mean Helplessness
> If Lust is not my real problem then what is?
> The real purpose of doing the 12 steps?
> The true meaning of 'fearlessness'
> My most Hopeful paragraph in the book
> The Step 3 promises
> Why you can't stay sober
> My Deal with G-D
> How do I know when I am self-deluded?
> Why you have to die!
> How to acquire peace of mind
> How free do you want to be?

Guys as I mentioned in the intro to this series, this is only for you if you are desperate and want to get sober and stay sober!

This is a 'simple but not easy' program and therefore you need to be willing to actively work these steps.

I strongly suggest the following before you attend Tuesday's session:

a) Get a sponsor
b) Listen to the first session recording (see above for all the recordings)
c) Read till page 44 in the big book (as much as you can)

Please also find attached a step 4 inventory worksheet which you should have with you for Tuesday's session.

> Those of you who are able to have your big book available to follow along with during the session will be guaranteed to gain a lot more. <

Looking forward to continuing the road to recovery with you all!

Stay Pure,
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- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet
- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet for Mac
- Download here the 4th Step handwriting Worksheets
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Recap of 2nd Talk 07 Jan 2015 01:44 #246721

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Recap of 2cd Talk

Guys we are all now at step 4 and this is where we separate the men from the boys.

We have seen that unless we LAUNCH into VIGOROUS action there will be little permanent effect of the first 3 steps.

So those of you that want what the Authors have, those that want to live HAPPY, JOYOUS and FREE, will make time before the next session to complete steps 4 and 5.

It may be much but that's why this is only for those who are desperate and have had enough of this illness.

You all should have the step 4 worksheet (see links below)

Complete the worksheet as best you can (LEAVE PERFECTIONISM TO G-D). Then schedule a call to do a step 5 with your sponsor BEFORE the next call.

I cannot stress this enough, if you want REAL sobriety then I strongly suggest you put working these steps first.

Your step 5 call with your sponsor involves you going through the completed step 4 worksheet and then admitting ALL your wrongs (even the things you did when you were 6) [ Step 5 - "Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs"]

IF you have done step 5 properly and have left nothing out you will feel reborn. You will feel as though a HUGE weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

Feel free to send me questions or feedback, to puredaniel613@gmail.com.

IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT ... AND YOU'RE WORTH IT!

Stay Pure,
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- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet
- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet for Mac
- Download here the 4th Step handwriting Worksheets
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Announcement for the 3rd talk: 07 Jan 2015 01:35 #246723

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Announcement for the 3rd talk:

Fast Track To Sobriety: Part 3

A one hour session for 4 weeks going through the 12 steps


HAVE YOU WRITTEN OUT YOUR 4TH STEP INVENTORY?

HAVE YOU ADMITTED ALL YOUR WRONGS TO YOURSELF, G-D AND ANOTHER PERSON?

If you have answered YES to both questions then CONGRATULATIONS you are ready to take the next steps to recovery!

WHAT WE WILL COVER:

3rd Session: Steps 6, 7, 8 & 9

In our next Session we will cover the following:

> Are you still afraid to look the world in the eye?
> Can you be alone at peace and ease?
> Are your fears starting to disappear?
> Do you feel closer to your Creator?
> Have you left anything out of your step 4?
> Are you ready to let G-d remove all your defects?
> Are you willing to do whatever it takes to be FREE from Lust?
> Do you know what your REAL purpose in life is?
> How does one make a proper amends?
> How do I make an amends to someone I truly hate?
> What if I wronged someone who I cannot contact anymore?
> What about someone who owes ME an amends?
> Sorry is not enough

Guys as I mentioned in the intro to this series, this is only for you if you are desperate and want to get sober and stay sober!

This is a 'simple but not easy' program and therefore you need to be willing to actively work these steps.

I strongly suggest the following before you attend Tuesday's session:

a) Write a 4th step inventory
b) Schedule a 2 hour slot to go through step 5 with your sponsor

Please find attached again a step 4 inventory worksheet which you should try to fill out as best you can.

> Those of you who are able to have your big book available to follow along with during the session will be guaranteed to gain a lot more. <

Looking forward to continuing the road to recovery with you all!

Stay Pure,
Daniel UK
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- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet
- Download here the 4th Step Worksheet for Mac
- Download here the 4th Step handwriting Worksheets
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Recap of 3rd Talk 07 Jan 2015 01:32 #246724

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Recap of 3rd Talk

Guys we are all now at step 8 and 9.

Congratulations for getting this far! We are almost at the top of the mountain where we will be able to experience the magnificent view.

We just need to climb a little further, but for many, this is where people find it too difficult and throw in the towel. Step 9 requires HUMILITY, HONESTY, COURAGE (and most importantly) ACTION.

There is a reason why step 9 is left until the very end. That's because the previous steps were needed in order to prepare us for this the difficulty of this step. We needed to learn how to LET GO and see where WE were at fault. We needed to learn how to pray for WILLINGNESS.

Remember this is a 'SIMPLE BUT NOT EASY' program but the rewards are indescribable!

True FREEDOM comes at a price and that price is 'DESTRUCTION OF SELF CENTEREDNESS'

Step 9 is the ultimate test in whether we are willing to practice destruction of self centeredness though making amends to ALL people we have harmed.

So those of you that still want to live HAPPY, JOYOUS and FREE, will have a list of all people you have harmed and start making those amends.

Remember, 'EXCEPT WHEN TO DO SO WOULD HARM THEM OR OTHERS'

IT WORKS IF YOU WORK IT ... AND YOU'RE WORTH IT!

Stay Pure,
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Announcement for the 4th talk 07 Jan 2015 01:02 #246725

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Announcement for the 4th talk:

Fast Track To Sobriety: Part 4

A one hour session for 4 weeks going through the 12 steps


HAVE YOU STARTED MAKING YOUR AMENDS?

HAVE YOU STARTED TO EXPERIENCE FREEDOM?

We have come to the final 3 steps of the program. Steps 10, 11 and 12. These are the daily maintenance steps which will keep us sober one day at a time.

WHAT WE WILL COVER:

Final Session: Steps 10, 11 & 12

In our next Session we will cover the following:

> How to do a daily 10th step
> The 10th Step promises
> How to STAY sober
> Is Prayer enough?
> How do you sponsor someone?
> How not to sponsor someone
> When are you ready to sponsor someone?
> The one thing that will guarantee sobriety
> The importance of letting others struggle
> How long sober do you have to be to sponsor others?
> The 12th step promises
> Living in sobriety

Remember: This is a 'simple but not easy' program and therefore you need to be willing to actively work these steps.

I strongly suggest the following before you attend Tuesday's session:

a) Complete your list of people you have harmed
b) Start making your amends

> Those of you who are able to have your big book available to follow along with during the session will be guaranteed to gain a lot more. <

Looking forward to completing (well we never fully complete) the road to recovery with you all!

Stay Pure,
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Create Miracles in Your Life 25 Feb 2015 09:36 #249374

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Daniel UK writes:

I want to share with you ways that you can create miracles in your life!

This disease is tough and we need a miracle to overcome it.

Most of you by now should be working steps 10, 11 and 12 on a daily basis and if you are, then you should already be seeing miracles happening.

One of the things that helps me experience miracles is my morning and evening routines:

I would encourage each of you to try this routine and let me know how it goes:

(Print the attached papers and keep in your big book)

Morning Routine:

1) Get on knees & say 3rd step, 7th step and Day prayers (see attached)
2) Read your gratitude list (see evening routine)
3) Read 'Just for today' and 'Acceptance' card (see attached)
4) Plan out your day
5) Read a few paragraphs from the Big Book, 12 &12 or white book
6) Read the 12 promises (see attached)

Evening Routine:

1) Read a few paragraphs from the Big Book, 12 &12 or white book
2) Start a gratitude list and add 1 thing you are grateful for each night
3) Write down a daily review
4) Get on knees and say Night prayer (see attached)

Each routine should only take 15 minutes out of your day and I guarantee you will see a difference to your life if you consistently do these routines.

There are many guys looking for a sponsor and there are not many to go around. I am asking for those of you that have been through the steps to please put yourself forward as a sponsor. I guarantee that you will find nothing more enjoyable and fulfilling than being of service to others who need help.

My life has completely changed as a result of sponsoring others. Remember that the Authors of the big book say " "NOTHING will so much INSURE IMMUNITY from lust as intensive work with other sexaholics" p.89

Make a miracle happen today and become someones sponsor.
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Re: Recap of 1st Talk 30 Mar 2017 22:44 #309744

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I do not have a sponsor and I emailed you through my google account mvemjsunpc@gmail.com
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