Uri wrote on 24 Dec 2009 16:52:


Looking forward to it.

Eye,

I have not read the thread all day till now.  WOW!!!!  You are inspiring me to continue on my path even more!!!

KUTGW!!! 

sci1977 wrote on 25 Dec 2009 01:16:


Thanks

Today is day 56.  Gematria of "NU?!"

I just noticed something recently.  I've been coming home for lunch, going to work a little on the computer (and check the forum a lot) and I've been able to help a bit at home too before going back to afternoon seder.

Not long ago I always felt so exhausted when I came home.  I would be very irritable, and usually have to take a nap.

I owe the change to all the work I've been doing at trying to ward off depression, frustration, and tension.  My energy isn't being drained by them (consciously or sub-consciously) all day long.  I'm trying to accept God's will (part of the 12 steps); trying to be more flexible.

I just feel livelier throughout the day.  I'm really amazed.

Have a good Shabbos everyone.

  --Eye.

Hey rockstar Your a really "live-eye". Lame but had to say it. :-\

Eye.nonymous wrote on 25 Dec 2009 07:31:


Love it!!

GEG!!!

I am happy to hear to you are feeling better while the day goes on.

KUTGW!!!

Today is day 57.  These days are going by so fast!

Until GYE has a closed forum for married guys, I'll have to post this here (I think it's really important for us to realize just how deeply this lust addiction affects our marriages).

About a week ago, my wife and I were expecting to have a romantic evening.  BUT, the baby was crying and had a fever.  My wife was very concerned, and nervous about it.

A long while ago, I would have been rather pushy to go through with our plans.  We woud have, but there would have been much resentment afterwards.

A while ago, I would have said, "this isn't going to work out.  my wife is too nervous."  We wouldn't have.  But, I would have blamed her for having hang-ups and for being obsessive and for sabotaging the evening.  IN short, my thinking would have been selfish.

A week ago, I said with 100% earnest, "I understand you might be nervous about the baby's health, so it's OK if we take a rain check."

Instead, she gave me an ultimatum.  If I can help out afterwards with the baby's medications etc, then it will be fine.

I was able to agree.  And everything was OK.

WOW!!!  That was great eye.  Dealing with our wives is very difficult.  I am so happy for you.  That showed amazing growth.  KUTGW!!!!  You keep inspiring me. 

sci1977 wrote on 26 Dec 2009 17:33:


Thanks.

EYEBALLS FO THE EYEBALLER! : :o : :o : :o : :o : :o : :o : :o : :o : :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o :o : : : : : : : :


:-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

KEEP ON EYEBALLING I MEAN ROCKING!!

Maybe I'm wrong, Eye, but I think that maybe it's a good thing for single guys to gain insight into how this could affect us in the future. Not just our addiction, but being selfish, and how that can affect our marriage, particularly in areas involving lust.

And you also set a fantastic role model to have in our minds, so that when (iy"h) we're married, that's the image we'll have in our heads. Of caring for our spouse.

YOU ARE SOMEBODY SPECIAL!!!

Please READ and VOTE on this new poll I just created over here: rehab-my-site.com/guardureyes/forum/index.php?topic=1427.0